It happens much too often that we plan, plan, plan only to experience the complete opposite of what we were hoping for. And sure, in that moment we become sad and a little bit angry that nothing went according to plan, but what else do you expect?
Life is never going to stop being unpredictable. We will experience things we never imagined we would in a million years – good and bad. But that is the beauty of it. Wouldn’t life be boring if you got every single thing you ever wanted? I mean, don’t get me wrong, it would leave you stress-free and content but it wouldn’t live up to the unexpected twists and turns that life has always put us through. It wouldn't make you the person you are today.
If you got everything you’ve ever wanted you wouldn’t understand the true value of anything. Because it’s not until we work for something, fail and try again that we learn the value of what we are working towards. I believe that not getting what we want in life is sometimes a blessing in disguise.
As a senior in high school I never once imagined that my life would be the way it is now. In my head, I was going to attend a different college, and live a completely different life. However, that was not the case. Life did what life typically does and I ended up at a different school. My parents told me that if I didn’t like it I could transfer after the first year because they could see the sadness in my face. I made it very clear that was not where I wanted to spend the next four years. When people would ask me where I was going to school they had a hard time finding any excitement in my voice. But looking back, I’m happy the things happened the way they did.
Now to you that might not seem like the worst thing in the world, but for me it was. It felt like everything was working against me. This was going to determine my college experience, and I did not want to be miserable for the next four years.
But instead of letting that steer my misery, I embraced it. I ended up in a place where I felt extremely comfortable and created friendships that will last long after college is over. And sure there are days where I wonder how different things would have been had I gone to another school, but I never dwell on it. I think that’s the most important part. Life is going to happen and you will not get what you want all of the time but you should never dwell on that. Of course, that’s not the only time I have faced life’s unexpected plan, and it definitely won’t be the last.
I like to believe it’s all part of a bigger plan that is in place for us.
Take a minute to think about all of the little things that have happened in your life. Think about how if one minescule event never took place, your life could be completely different. Case and point: everything happens for a reason.
Not getting what you want in life and making the most of what you did get is in fact a part of life and a testament to how strong you are as a human being. It makes you enjoy life the way it is right now.
Your own happiness should never be determined by what you get and what you didn’t get. Happiness is a mood, not a destination. And don’t forget, everything works out in the end.
