How Life Is As A Black Sheep

How Life Is As A Black Sheep

Standing out and alone ever since we can recall, the black sheep.

Growing up I was never a popular kid, never had the well-rounded personality and was never known by my actual name. To our families and to the people around us, we are seen differently than the typical stranger. When certain social situations occur black sheep’s are treated differently than other people. Most people don’t know what black sheep’s are though, when you Google “black sheep” is defined as “a member of a family or group who is regarded as a disgrace to them”, Urban Dictionary on the other hand describe black sheep in a more reasonable and common way, which is “a term used to describe someone who feels left out in a family, the outcast of the family because they choose to do other things,”. Life is a lot different for the typical black sheep, and here’s how:

1. “Is this chair taken?”

So many times we think that when people ask this question it means they want to sit down with you, drink coffee together, eat a meal with a stranger. No, that’s not what it mean’s, as a black sheep that question always ends up with the following question of “Can I have this chair?”. Well as the black sheep you aren’t going to say no because you don’t want to seem rude so you say sure, which assures you eating alone for that meal.

2. The seat next to you

Every black sheep has been in this situation, you show up early to a class, meeting, or event of any type. There are seats next to you but no one wants to sit next to you. The chairs start filling up and now one is left, a person who comes in late enters and sees that the chair next to you is the only chair open and huffs and puffs over the last chair being next to the black sheep.

3. No one listening

Sometimes a black sheep will find itself in a group of friends having typical conversations of life. Everyone shares something and finally it’s the black sheep’s turn to put some input into the conversation. As soon as the black sheep starts their story you can see as people stop paying attention and find other things to do. You even notice that you could stop mid sentence and no one would even bother to ask why; they would just talk about something else.

3. Input equals nonsense

Lets say a group of friends and yourself are trying to figure out a place to eat or what movie to watch. Everyone throws out ideas and it seems as though ever idea you throw out isn’t really important or is utterly ridiculous to the group. As many of your ideas get constantly rejected you just end up not speaking, which then makes you come off as being irritable or moody, but in the end is just you giving up on saying something.

4. The staring

Being the black sheep will make you second-guess everything you do. If you go to grab chocolate chip mint cookies and a girl grabbing regular chocolate chip cookies gives you “that look” the black sheep will almost always stop the action immediately and do something of the “norm”.

5. Being called moody

Since the black sheep rarely talks or puts input into conversations we have learned to just sit there and look pretty. The pretty part we haven't really gotten down pat though, since we sit there quietly we also seem to sit there with RBF, and if you don't know what that means just google it. With this face it supposedly makes us look very pissed and moody but really we just want to be heard and treated like everyone else.

Life will never be easy for the black sheep but we manage to live day in and day out going through the same motions with the same situations what seems like everyday.

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However, with million of writers posting articles everyday, how do I create original content? Yes, there are endless things to write, until you realize that four other people wrote about the same topic, with the same title.

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1. Will it appeal to my audience? What is the intended audience?

2. Why does this matter? What type of message does it send?

I wish I had more of an exciting life, so I could write about my extravagant adventures and greatest accomplishments.

I overthink a lot and put a lot of energy into what is something my audience would be interested in. How can I expand my horizons as a writer?

My first article was a listicle, because I was just getting started, until I found more ideas related to family, culture and concentrating on what makes me 'unique'. I hope that my future articles will continue to reflect the kind of person am I and that my experiences can inspire/bring change in a positive manner.

Don't get me wrong... those listicles are great for a good chuckle, but it doesn't leave you with anything life changing. In that manner, I love that Odyssey challenges me to expand outside the box and bring new ideas to the table, with every article.

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Stuffing our faces with five slices of pizza, bowling very poorly, or talking about our weird eating habits is how we do our sisterly bonding. We sit there laughing at the ridiculous moments we all have experienced, feeling completely comfortable around each other. These conversations are pure and genuine and allow new friendships to form out of fun experiences.

2. Big Little Week: only the BEST WEEK OF YOUR LIFE

You walk into your room to find your entire bed decorated with fun goodies. Free t-shirts, fun foods, and sorority décor are carefully arranged on your bed every day by your future Big. Sure, the free items are cool to receive but there is something else that is so special about this week.

Without even knowing the sister that will be your future Big you develop a special connection through seeing how much she cares about you. You immediately feel comfortable around this girl, able to go to her with the smallest concerns. This week is the beginning of a great future of a strong friendship, great laughs, and irreplaceable love.

3. Service Opportunities: DO IT FOR THE GIRL SCOUTS

I love to get involved in helping out the local community, and a sorority was the perfect way to do that. It allowed me to become a part of something bigger than myself and support causes that might not have impacted me, but definitely affected others. I am now actively trying to alleviate child abuse, as well as incite confidence within young girls.

4. New Friendships!

A group of 47 girls were all bound together by one thing: sorority sisterhood. We didn’t know anything about each other yet we immediately started saying ‘hi’ to one other everywhere on campus, supporting individual successes in academics, and giving advice on any conflicts. I now have an amazing group of women there for me no matter what difficulties I face, and I know I can always rely on them when I need them most.

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Although I may be obnoxious and loud at times, I am a very self-conscious individual. I never thought I was pretty, always worried about how white my teeth were, and don’t even get me started on what I think about my nose. However, joining a sorority allowed me to feel comfortable in my own skin. I could have a bare face, my hair up in a bun, and sweatpants on, and the only thing the girls would be worried about is the words coming out of my mouth. I don’t need to put on a façade in order to be in front of these girls. I can just be myself.

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