Let’s talk about trust everyone! This may not be everyone’s opinion on trust but for me I see trust as a very hard and difficult thing to comprehend. I believe that nine out of ten people are posers. What does this mean? Well, there is a crowd of people that you know in front of you and probably only one of them has kept to themselves everything you have ever told to them. Sorry but it is the harsh reality that not everyone can be trusted. This does not mean that you should go around not listening to everyone because they aren’t trustworthy. There is a certain level of trust you have with different people in your life. Here’s an example, I have a volleyball coach that has been coaching me for let’s say a month. He sounds like he knows what he is doing but he gives me a task to do that sounds just the slightest bit wacky and he says to me, “just trust me”. More than likely I am going to trust him with this task because it is a volleyball task and more than likely he knows more about volleyball than me. This does not mean that I give him a tiny box that has all of my trust in it. There is the certain level of volleyball trust that comes in that box. There are many more examples of trust where you need to find the balance of giving the tiny box with certain amounts of trust to certain people. Personally, these boxes rarely come to people and they usually aren’t filled with much trust at all. So, what you get is what you get with me. However, I have noticed with many of my friends that their boxes are big and filled with lots of trust. This soon leads to giving the wrong trust to the wrong people and it ends up with them crying on my shoulder. I want people to be aware of this. Don’t go around giving out your boxes of trust because you only have so much before you run out. The best advice I can give is find the ones who you can trust and balance out when and where you give them your trust. Ultimately most people have a friend circle. You have the outside core that has a bunch of distant friends, you have the middle half that has a few of your friends but not super close friends, and then you have the core where you have your closest friends. This may be two or three but whatever it is these are the ones that you have the most comfortable and trustworthy friends. This is where you set your boxes for the time being. I am not saying go around and start pilling all of your trust on one friend, you may overwhelm them if you do this. What I am saying is when you need someone to trust, someone who you are comfortable with, and someone you know will be there to help you when you are down the core friends are the ones you go to. So, it is okay if when you boyfriend of two weeks asks if you trust him, to say no because I honestly don’t think he is in your core of friends after two weeks. It is okay to only be comfortable giving your boxes to two people because if you end up handing them out like Santa you may be in a bit of trouble.

~Col