To The Woman Who Stole My Happily Ever After,

I should probably start off by being truthful. Yes, I know what you look like. Of course I have perused your social media account more than once. You are his type. I should not be surprised by that though. He always had a thing for curvaceous women with long hair. Although I must say, you are a lot taller than what I imagined. Either way, I cannot stay caught up on your appearance. We must move onto something more important.

Before all of this, you were a stranger to me. More than likely, you and I would have never even known the other existed. But we do. Perhaps the unknown would have done me better. I cannot say for sure. But now, you are not a stranger to me anymore. You are the girl who took my happily ever after.

You are now the girl who I feel replaced me. I do not know if you have ever felt replaced or pushed aside. I will let you in on a secret that is not so secret – it is not fun and it is not anything that you would ever want to feel. And after months of driving myself insane, trying to figure out what I did wrong or what I could have done differently, I have now realized that I have been pointing the finger in the wrong direction.

I want you to know that at a point in time, I was petty. I laughed it off at the fact that you got my sloppy seconds. But after some time, I decided to try a different approach and see the situation for everything it was and not for everything I wanted it to be.

You have a man who deep down, has a beautiful heart. It is guarded due to years of regret, poor decisions and hurt. You must tread carefully in order to become a part of that heart. Because if you make the wrong move, you will get shut out forever.

You have a man who will make you laugh to the point where you feel as though you will forever have smile lines ingrained on your cheeks. There will be days where you feel upset or are not in a good mood. Trust me, I have been there. He will make the negativity go away in an instant. Yes, the jokes become redundant and sometimes you just want to slap him silly. But be thankful the smiles are not tears….yet.

You have a man who is strong-willed and steadfast in his beliefs and decisions. I hate to break it to you, but there really is no changing his mind. It gets so annoying. Oh, and do not argue with him about things he swears he is right on. There is no use. And you will eventually give in and give him the satisfaction he was seeking. Just go with it.

You have a man who will protect you as though you are the most important thing in his life. It feels great to have that feeling of security. So if there is ever a time where you feel as though you are in harm’s way, find comfort in knowing that you have a man who will shield all of it from you.

So obviously you can see why I feel resentment towards you and why I probably will never like you, even though I do not know you personally. Just imagine if the shoe was on the other foot. You now have someone with these great qualities that I am missing out on and will no longer get to be the recipient of. It sort of sounds like you got the sunshine and rainbows while I am left with dark clouds and thunderstorms.

If you give it some time, you will see what else you signed up for when you fell for his smooth talk and romantic ways.

You have a man who will lie to you. And boy, is he such a wonderful liar. If there was an award for the best liar, he would win it every single time. He will have you start to doubt yourself and make you feel stupid for even questioning his behavior. The mind games are awful.

You have a man who will cheat on you and convince you it was your fault. You are the one to blame. You did not do something right or you did not give him the attention he feels he deserves. I hate to break it to you, but I can almost guarantee you are not the only one he is saying ‘I love you’ to throughout the day.

You have a man who will try so hard to convince you he has changed his no-good ways. But, sometimes he is easily influenced. And more than likely, he will revert back to the past and this will hurt you a lot. You will feel as though you are not a priority to him and that he could care less about leaving you behind. And more than likely, those feelings you are feeling are true. Because that is who he is.

You have a man who will use you until you have nothing left. You give and you give and you give, and you will find yourself hardly getting anything in return. You will start to feel empty. And chances are, you will feel as though you have hit rock bottom and you may even feel as though he is the one who dragged you down there.

I never thought I would be okay with him being with anyone else. I was convinced that our forever really meant just that…forever. But as time went on, I began to see that my value outweighed the things I was putting up with. One day, you might get there too.

I thought I would always resent you and be jealous of you. You did steal my happily ever after. You stole someone who made me laugh and made me cry. You stole someone who built me up and who tore me down. You stole someone who I was convinced was all right for me, but proved to be all wrong. You stole my stress, my worries, my heartbreak.

You stole my happily ever after.

Thank you.