So wait, let me get this straight. Just because you were there for me when I needed someone to vent to, or you often told me I looked nice, or you offered to help me study, I’m supposed to like you?
You’ve got to be kidding.
If a girl used that line, we’d be called one of the dreaded “C” words: crazy or clingy. We could even be told that’s how we’re supposed to be.
What happened to being a friend? To being friendly? To being a gentleman?
I don't not like you because you’re a "nice guy." It’s not like I have a radar in my head that goes off and automatically friend-zones nice guys. Your niceness has absolutely nothing to do with it (unless you're one giganto pushover, that does alert my radar.)
Ever heard of a thing called chemistry? It’s kind of important. If there’s no chemistry between us, no butterflies or excitement when I see you, then it isn't going to work. It’s really as simple as that.
You think you're deserving of my affection because you were nice? Like you're making a sacrifice and I should be grateful? Like I don't naturally deserve to be treated nicely by a person of the opposite gender whom I'm in a platonic friendship with?
HAHAHA.
If I don't like you back, I'm called evil or manipulative or I “only like assholes.” While that might be true sometimes, as it is when you, a self-proclaimed nice guy, don't get the girl you want, it’s not a crutch, for you to fall back on and try to make me feel bad. Isn’t “treat others the way you’d like to be treated” a golden rule or something?
It’s called life.
You can't make an excuse for every little thing that doesn't go your way. I mean, I guess you can, but then you really will finish last. In everything. No one likes someone who makes excuses when they don't accomplish their goals.
How about all the girls who were nice and helped you through English class in high school? Did you like each one of them?
If that girl you like so much isn't feeling the same way, then move on. Stop being overly nice and expecting something to change. You won’t change her mind, and you won’t kill her with kindness. You'll just end up a broken-hearted pushover.
Find a girl who adores you and appreciates your kindness. Someone you aren't trying to impress by being so nice, but someone you just want to be nice for because you think they truly deserve it. A girl who gives you a rush every time you see her, and you can feel the chemistry with.
So before you open your whiny mouth the next time a girl doesn’t like you and start bitching about how “nice guys finish last,” maybe you should grow a pair and be upfront with her first. See if the feelings are mutual, instead of expecting her to fall for you because you were just soooo nice. Trust me, your looks chemistry matters more.
