A Letter To The Girl Who Was Cheated On By Her "Soulmate"

A Letter To The Girl Who Was Cheated On By Her "Soulmate"

Chin up, darling. There's a life beyond the one you pictured with him.

Hi there,

I heard you've been going through some pretty tough times lately. He left you, didn't he? The guy you grew to love and trust so dearly, chose to betray you and stomp your heart into the ground. The love you had for him was deeper than any ocean and stronger than the most potent of drugs, wasn't it?

You saw your entire future built around him. You never once thought he would ever do this to you, he was your version of perfection. You placed your heart in his hands and trusted him to never drop it. He did his job for a long time, but then one day he became complacent, or maybe careless, and he let his eyes wander astray.

He dropped your heart and stepped on it while chasing someones else. He broke you. I see how your attitude has changed. You've lost your will to live and the ability to see the good in your life; you've never felt so alone before.

It's not hard to see how miserable you've become. The sadness, confusion, self-loathing, and loneliness has consumed your entire existence; you don't think you'll ever be the same again, do you?

Every night, as you fight back tears, you pray to God that he will return to your side and awaken you from the nightmare. But deep down inside yourself, you know he is never coming back. He made that choice the moment he let his eyes wander. He's left you wondering why you weren't good enough, wondering what it was that you did wrong.

Don't you dare blame yourself for his choices, don't you dare give him that kind of power over you.

The hardest part in all of this is the fact that no matter how badly you want to hate him for this, you will always forgive him in the end. However, don't let anyone tell you that this is a bad thing. The ability to forgive him will help you move on. Forgive him, but never forget what he chose to do to you.

Right now, this is the time for you to keep to yourself and take a mental and emotional break. Go ahead and cry, be sad, and let all the negativity out. It's okay to not be okay.

Time will heal the wounds he left you with. How much time it takes is completely up to you. Maybe you'll begin to let go tomorrow, or maybe it'll take a few years. Have patience and keep an open mind, and I promise that this situation will get better.

Nobody ever expects to have their trust violated by a loved one, so I'm sure that your willingness to love and trust again is next to zero, and that is perfectly okay right now. Since you can no longer give your love to him, give it to yourself instead.

You are not any less of a person because he cheated and left. You are still beautiful, strong-willed, intelligent, and filled with kindness. Besides, if you can love the person who hurt you this much, just imagine how much you will love the person who chooses to stand by you forever.

The game of love is the most difficult and complex for humans to win. All the stars must align perfectly for success to be found. While you may have lost faith in love, never lose faith in yourself.

Stay strong, you'll get through this. Just remember to never blame yourself, forgive, but never forget, take your time, and always love yourself.

Chin up, darling. There's a life beyond the one you pictured with him.


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Dear ML

But you should have known

I should have known when you would get angry with me when I would lock the car doors.

I should known when you hid me from the world for 6 months because you didn’t want to be seen with me whether you admit it or not.

I should have known when I was embarrassed when I made a mistake because once again, whether you admit it or not, you were laughing at me. I suck at pool and instead of wanting to help me, you laughed and told all of your friends that you didn’t want me on your team because i sucked. You put your ego and need to be “cool” and I was further isolated from you.

I should have known when you refused to want to talk to me on my bad days when i didn’t know who i even was because it was too much and reminded you of her.

I should have known when you ditched me for your friends, gave up our alone time to see them and all the times you knew i didn’t want to be out til late or the times I was not in the mood to see anyone else but you, and still ended up with you and your 5 friends in a cold basement where you sat as far from me as possible.

I should have known when you had a “girl friend” sleepover your house when your parents were away and once again, whether you admit it or not, something more happened.

I should have known when your actions pushed me towards someone who values me more than you.

There were so many signs that I ignored because for once, i let my guard down. I loved you blindly and never saw the little things that I never knew mattered til I was sitting in his car in his friend’s driveway when he said “if you feel awkward, we’ll leave right away” or how he always introduces me as his girlfriend to people who might already know. You’ve harbored so much anger to me and calling me a cheater when you refuse to accept the fact that it was your actions since the day we met that always stayed with me.

You're mad at me for being happy. You're mad because you can't see the fact that you pushed me away. You're mad because you know deep down that you should have known how much love i had in my heart and now you're the one who's bitter and alone.

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Thank-You For Breaking My Heart

You find that you have lost yourself because you gave too much of yourself to someone else

Relationships come and go, but your first heartbreak will always lay dormant within you until you learn how to deal with a broken heart and mend the pieces back together. First loves are something special. You find that your walls have decayed, you become vulnerable, you get butterflies every time you see this person’s face and you finally come to realize what love really feels like. It feels like a heavy weight on your heart screaming through your chest because deep down you know that this person is going to eventually hurt you.

Nothing lasts forever, that’s inevitable. But being in college and meeting that one person you instantly connect with will make you feel so lucky because how did you manage to find that one person out of a sea of college students? Maybe it is fate, maybe everything is supposed to happen for a reason because without heartbreak and hardships how will one ever grow?

You begin to see this person every day, begin dating and rush into a relationship. A few months go by and you come to see that this person has flaws, but you soon begin to fall in love with their flaws because it makes them who they are. After accepting their flaws and spending every single second of the day with them, they do something to crack your heart, but not fully break it. They cut things off.

Once they realize that they have made a mistake and the relationship was the only strong aspect they said they had in their life, you take them back. A little inch of your decaying wall goes back up. A few weeks go by and everything goes back to normal, the cut off is forgotten but you soon become obsessive and rely on one person to make you happy.

You see yourself becoming someone you are not. You accept that you love this person because you have come to the conclusion that you would take a bullet for them. You would take away all of their pain just so they do not have to suffer one bit. That is when the weight becomes too heavy on your heart. Sooner or later, spending time apart with friends becomes a good thing. Space is needed, yet all of the attention that was focused on you dies down a little bit. That college party phase emerges and you think that you need your significant other more than they need you.

Communication becomes impossible and you feel as if you can read your partner so well, yet they cannot read you. You know that you have worked things out in the past, but that heavy weight on your heart tells you otherwise. Once that happiness dies out and the small things they did for you begin to outweigh the big things, what’s the point any more. You find that you have lost yourself because you gave too much of yourself to someone else. You break things off before they do because the direction you were going in was a bunch of circles. You cry and cry and replay the amazing memories you two shared, remembering that you were the one who ended it all, but if you had waited, the pain would have been worse. You thank yourself for getting out of something that was not going anywhere. You thank yourself for breaking your own heart.
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