A Letter To The Girl Who Was Cheated On By Her "Soulmate"

A Letter To The Girl Who Was Cheated On By Her "Soulmate"

Chin up, darling. There's a life beyond the one you pictured with him.

Hi there,

I heard you've been going through some pretty tough times lately. He left you, didn't he? The guy you grew to love and trust so dearly, chose to betray you and stomp your heart into the ground. The love you had for him was deeper than any ocean and stronger than the most potent of drugs, wasn't it?

You saw your entire future built around him. You never once thought he would ever do this to you, he was your version of perfection. You placed your heart in his hands and trusted him to never drop it. He did his job for a long time, but then one day he became complacent, or maybe careless, and he let his eyes wander astray.

He dropped your heart and stepped on it while chasing someones else. He broke you. I see how your attitude has changed. You've lost your will to live and the ability to see the good in your life; you've never felt so alone before.

It's not hard to see how miserable you've become. The sadness, confusion, self-loathing, and loneliness has consumed your entire existence; you don't think you'll ever be the same again, do you?

Every night, as you fight back tears, you pray to God that he will return to your side and awaken you from the nightmare. But deep down inside yourself, you know he is never coming back. He made that choice the moment he let his eyes wander. He's left you wondering why you weren't good enough, wondering what it was that you did wrong.

Don't you dare blame yourself for his choices, don't you dare give him that kind of power over you.

The hardest part in all of this is the fact that no matter how badly you want to hate him for this, you will always forgive him in the end. However, don't let anyone tell you that this is a bad thing. The ability to forgive him will help you move on. Forgive him, but never forget what he chose to do to you.

Right now, this is the time for you to keep to yourself and take a mental and emotional break. Go ahead and cry, be sad, and let all the negativity out. It's okay to not be okay.

Time will heal the wounds he left you with. How much time it takes is completely up to you. Maybe you'll begin to let go tomorrow, or maybe it'll take a few years. Have patience and keep an open mind, and I promise that this situation will get better.

Nobody ever expects to have their trust violated by a loved one, so I'm sure that your willingness to love and trust again is next to zero, and that is perfectly okay right now. Since you can no longer give your love to him, give it to yourself instead.

You are not any less of a person because he cheated and left. You are still beautiful, strong-willed, intelligent, and filled with kindness. Besides, if you can love the person who hurt you this much, just imagine how much you will love the person who chooses to stand by you forever.

The game of love is the most difficult and complex for humans to win. All the stars must align perfectly for success to be found. While you may have lost faith in love, never lose faith in yourself.

Stay strong, you'll get through this. Just remember to never blame yourself, forgive, but never forget, take your time, and always love yourself.

Chin up, darling. There's a life beyond the one you pictured with him.


The Stranger Who Cares

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To the ex who taught me what 'big love' Really Means

Our love was grand, but it wasn't sturdy.


It's been a while now. Not long enough for me to forget how bad it hurt when you left, but long enough for me to forget what your laugh sounds like. And maybe that's the problem.

It's been so long since I've seen you and so long since there was anything between us, much less something good — but somehow I still miss you. Every once in a while I have a dream about you or meet someone that reminds me of you, and while it hurts less than it did before, it still hurts. I get annoyed with myself for hurting now because it certainly has been long enough for me to not only get over you but to recover from the wounds you opened.

And I am over you. I have recovered, but I'm starting to think that maybe you were my one big love.

Because at the end of the day, our love was far bigger than us and was bound to crash and burn.

Our love was the passionate but toxic kind. We were never meant to be together and the minute we got involved it was guaranteed that at least one of us was going to get hurt. In fact, I vividly remember telling my roommate after our second date that "if this turns into something, it's going to end with someone's heart getting ripped out of their chest." Lucky me!

Although I certainly got the short end of the stick and took most of the pain of our breakup, I also think that in some ways we both got hurt. We had too many what-ifs and too many feelings left unsaid.

Just as you should've been far more open with me far sooner, I should've saved at least some of my heart from the wreckage that was to come. But I didn't. It didn't matter to me that you waited so long to tell me how you felt because I knew it all along. I could feel it. So I didn't vocalize it, but I gave you everything.

In a way, I am thankful.

If it wasn't for you, I wouldn't know what it felt like to reap the benefits of loving someone with your entire heart. However, I also never want to go through the pain that I felt when you left ever again.

So where does this leave us? You're in a serious relationship now, and from what it sounds like you are loving her the way you loved me, but with more loyalty and logic. I hope that's true. I hope you have not only dedicated your heart to her but have also dedicated yourself to being open and truthful with her. Because as you and I learned the hard way, love is nothing without honesty. I think you know that now, and so do I, but unfortunately it's far too late for us.

Thank you for gifting me with the experience of a love that is fiery, passionate, exciting and all-consuming. Despite the fact that a part of me still cracks every time I see a picture of you, I have no regrets. I hope you don't either.

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