It's 2017 and we're still using slang words or phrases like "GOAT" and "salty" but one that seems to always make a comeback every year, and for good reason, is "hater" and I'm not mad about it.
I'm a second semester junior in college and at this point of my life, I would very much prefer to skate through the rest of this semester along with all of next year without having to deal with fake friends and friends that exist just to bask in your more unfortunate moments. As many of my friends may know (or if you aren't aware) I experienced a rather unpleasant hiccup in my college career thus far. Although that's all I'll say on the matter, it's been a little more than a year since my experience with potentially "throwing away everything my parents put at stake" and since then, I can proudly say I've not only grown as a person, but as a daughter, a student and the person I would like to one day become. Having said this, to this day, there are people (or one person) that woke up one morning and decided they desperately needed to try to bring me down and to that, I say nice try.
Now, this wasn't just a random person who saw me and decided to try to f*ck up my life, no. This was a person who I had a rather solidified and respected relationship with and attempted to come at me via word of mouth and nasty rumors. A cardinal rule I've learned to follow on a daily basis is that there is nothing in this world that can hurt another individual unless said individual allows it to affect them. Assuming this person has always had a negative viewpoint of me and was patiently waiting to finally find something out about me she could potentially use against me, then shame on me. I was always told by a cousin of mine that I trust, love and grow attached to whoever crosses my path quicker than many others around me and while this is true, if this hadn't been a growing quality of mine throughout the years, I never would have learned to use that to my advantage.
For you, or anybody else finding themselves in such a negative, self loathing mind set that feels the need to create rumors about another person or to even bring up events from the past, to you I say thank you. Without that brief moment of self doubt that I found myself in a few days ago, I never would have accurately solidified just how much I've grown in my life so far.
After so many moments of self doubt, sadness and overall rage over how much I've failed those around me, there's no more space for others to bring me down because I've brought myself down more times than anyone else can even try to. Without it, I wouldn't be where I am today and I can only be grateful for those moments of despair and uncertainty because they've only led me to an even longer road to happiness and genuine contentment.
