Dear High-School Self,
You thought you were so ready to grow up. You thought the advice your parents gave was stupid, and you thought that everyone’s opinions of you actually mattered. You thought you were in love with the guy you met freshman year, or that the girl you sat next to in science class was your best friend forever. Little did you know, you still had so much to learn.
First of all, you can't be friends with everyone. You shouldn't go out of your way for people who are not doing the same for you. The people that are putting 100 percent effort into your friendship are the ones to stick around. Make sure you don't go out of your way to make others happy if they aren't returning the favor. Don't let negativity surround you.
Talking back to teachers isn't going to get you anywhere but into the principal's office. It's easier to just listen the first time and understand that they are just doing their job. ESPECIALLY with the dress code. Don't be that person constantly breaking the rules. All that's going to do is put you in a smelly, oversized gym shirt from a box in the office. You don't even want to know how long it's been since that shirt has been washed.
You'll eventually meet your "first love," but you can't expect it to be your last. You're going to meet guys who will do anything and everything for you, and you'll be with guys who won't even lift a finger to make you happy. Learn the difference.
Don't let getting a date be the only thing on your mind during Prom and Homecoming season. It's not the most important thing in the world. It may be nice to have pictures to post, and to have for the future, but going with a group of friends can be fun. Don't see it as a bad thing.
Being involved with sports and clubs that interest you are important. Even if you aren't doing it with your friends, because then you can make new ones. Being captain of the cheer team or the most popular kid in class really won't matter after you graduate.
Listen to your parents. You might not think they know what's going on, or that they understand the situation, but they know a lot more than you do, even if it has been a while since they were in school. If your mom doesn't trust that boy, you probably shouldn't either. She only wants the best for you. If you don't listen to her, she'll be there for you through it all. And as much as she probably wants to, she won't be saying, "I told you so."
Lastly, it's okay to change your mind. Nothing is ever set in stone, especially your high-school decisions. If you don't like the path you're on, you have the power to change it. Don't do anything that isn't making you happy or moving your life in a positive direction.
Sincerely,
Erika
