Dear Ex,

If you found this and are reading it, thank you. I can assure you that none of this will get ugly. I hope that you are happy and all is well in your life. I’m sure your family is still doing amazing things because they are great people. I wrote this because I have learned a lot from our past relationship while in college. I feel like I need to get all of this out.

First, thank you for everything. You blessed all the days that we spent together and we truly had fun. I will always look back on all those times that we just lounged around and did absolutely nothing as fun times. I believe that because of you, I found out how to have fun doing nothing. Thanks for that. Thank you for allowing me to hang out with your family. Your family is so great and I can’t send enough thanks their way. I can remember the days that I was scared that they would never like me. Looking back, I had nothing to be afraid of. Thank you for showing me how to never fear anything.

You truly taught me how to have trust again. You built that up in me even though I was stubborn all those times you tried to bring that out of me. Thank you for teaching me how to build a relationship. I can be the most ignorant guy and you saw past that so often. You shaped my views of a romantic relationship and I’m forever grateful for that.

Lastly, thank you for loving me. I can be the hardest person to love on this planet. You saw past all my flaws and loved me anyways. Because of you, I can now return that to the next romantic interest in my life. Most of all, thank you for keeping God at the center of our relationship. That meant the most to me.

There are some things that I want you to know about me now. Because of you, I have changed. I believe that I am a new man now all because of the lessons that you taught me, whether you knew that you were teaching them or not. I want you to know that only good memories and thoughts come to me when you cross my mind. Was I mad at you for about a year after the breakup? Yes. At the current moment, I have accepted the fact that we dated and that you are a great part of my past and story. I went through so many emotions after we split. I was this weird mix of hatred and sadness, which eventually turned into bitterness. After that, sadness was the only emotion I had. Now all is well and I am glad that we had our time together. I also want you to know that I pray for you. I pray that you have the exact life that you want. I pray that you only find happiness in all the doors that you open. I also pray for your family and their well-being.

Lastly, I’m sorry for all of the times that I was a complete jerk. I tend to do that often, any of my college friends could tell you that. I’m sorry that we ended in the way that we did. I wish that all of those years of happiness and joy would be represented well by the way that we split. I wish we could have ended on a better note than we did. I’m sorry that I made you choose between your friends and me. I regret making you go through that the most. I shouldn’t have been so foolish as to put you through that. I’m sorry that we didn’t stay friends like we said we would after the split. I’m sorry that I didn’t see our relationship as I do now. I cannot be sorry enough for this. I have become more knowledgeable and I have changed immensely since then. This is all because of you and I wish I could’ve been this way when we were dating.

I hope you found this letter and I wish you well in the rest of your life. I can truly tell you that you shaped my life over these past years. I’m grateful for the time that we had and I promise to never look back on our relationship in a bitter manner as I had in the past. Thank you for all your effort into my life. Take care, you’ve done so much for me and I am forever grateful for that.

Sincerely,

Your Ex