To my best friend and roomie who moved away to chase her dreams,
Where do I begin? I will start by saying that I am so proud of you. I am so proud that you are going after what you want and recognizing all of the lifestyle changes that come with it. I am proud because you took a leap of faith and you have your head on straight. You knew when to say "enough is enough" and I envy you for that. Although you moved away a few months ago, I will always support you like you are still my roommate, my best friend and my sister.
I know that making the decision to move up north wasn't easy for you. With all that you've been through, I can imagine that making big decisions like that terrify you and make you second guess yourself. Changing your life around to accommodate to your needs isn't easy and it takes time but I think that you have done such a good job. It makes me so happy to know that you are happy.
When your best friend moves away, you’ll be happy for them, because the world is theirs and it's full of possibility and there is so much they can accomplish. For a little bit, it may feel like they left you and you had no say in the matter. In that moment, you will feel abandoned but then you remember all of the good times that you had together.
Sometimes they take a step back and realize that this isn't how they want to live their life. Their lives are still their own to mold and shape and change while they're young. Maybe they got a new job, or maybe they are having family issues, or maybe they fell in love. No matter the reason, you should support them and make it known that they are making the right decision.
There’s no way around it. It is going to hurt like hell when it happens and it will shatter your heart to know that they won't be there anymore. A best friend is someone who is irreplaceable to you, and it would be abnormal if you weren't hurting. One thing you can do is cherish the time you had together while you had it. If you understand this during the whole process, the actual situation becomes a lot easier to accept.
So Alyssa, I just wanted to let you know that although I miss you so much and wish you were here, you made the right decision. There is no one more deserving of a happy and successful life than you are. Continue to follow your dreams, work your ass off, take chances and be the best person that your new life allows you to be. I will be here through it all and I'm only a FaceTime call and a package of hot fries away.
Love your soul sister,
Erin
