When you were a little girl, you dreamed about the days when you would be an adult, on your own and living the life you wanted, with complete freedom and the loftiest of goals. On your 20th birthday, it is scary to realize that those days are finally here.

Try new things. Say yes more often than no. Don’t be afraid to make a fool of yourself or go against what everyone else is doing. This is your time to be selfish and do whatever you want.

One day, someone will walk into your life and you will be forever changed. It might be hard for you to believe now, but trust me on this one. In the meantime, celebrate your independence and love yourself for who you are. Open yourself up to people. Being vulnerable is scary, but that is how you form lifelong connections. When someone understands you, when you let them in to your world, that is when you truly realize how wonderful life can be.

Stop stressing about the future. It might seem like everyone has their life planned out; in reality, we are all just trying to find our place. Remember to explore all of your interests and find what you are truly passionate about.

Go out on a Tuesday. Yes, school is important, but so is enjoying your college experience. Like Tom Petty once said, “The work never ends, but college does.” So put down the textbooks and enjoy a night out with your friends. Your best college memories should not include studying at the library.

Don’t think too much. Stop letting yourself get lost in your fears and anxieties, and believe that everything will work out the way it is supposed to. Above all, be yourself. Don’t let the world harden your heart. It is a tough place out there, but you are strong enough to overcome any obstacle. I know you can do anything you set your mind to.

Your twenties are going to be some of the best years of your life. You’ll win some, and lose some, but always remember that life goes on. And I know you are going to kill it.