To The Guy Who Left, All I Can Say Is 'Thank You'

To The Guy Who Left, All I Can Say Is 'Thank You'

You were not my destination, but you most definitely were a crossroad that helped me get to where I am today.


I didn't know how much one conversation could wreck and heal me at the same time. I had almost forgotten how much I missed you, your voice, encouragement, and how you can just string words together that would light my heart on fire. You made me care, trust and hope.

You set the bar high and gave me so much to remember.

I could never forget how you treated me with gentleness and honesty. And how you always had a way of making every moment feel like an extraordinary adventure. I just hope, in return, that I at least made your bad days better.

After all that we have been through, we deserve a soft, peaceful ending to this chapter. You gave it to me through laughs and tears, and I can't thank you enough for that. Circumstances have changed and what we are, but not who we are. You're still a forest and I'm still an ocean.

One day someone will get lost in the evergreen forest that you are, and love every step of it. And one day someone will learn to swim in the blue ocean that I am and fall in love forever.

Thank you for being brave enough to do what I may not have done — leave.

Thank you for caring about me enough to let me go. You didn't stay, but now you gave someone else the chance to. Thank you for appreciating me in many ways, and making me realize what kind of person I need to wait for.

Thank you for making me realize that someone can fall in love with me for my heart, not just my face and body. I no longer hide my messy, weird, honest or sentimental sides. It's all about who I really am.

Thank you for breaking my heart, blocking me, choosing someone else and leaving me with no other choice but to move on.

I didn't think we were over yet when I found out you were talking to someone else. To say I was hurt would be an understatement. I suppose sometimes I need more than a gentle nudge to release the past, and that did just that.

Thank you for saying we could stay friends when you only meant strangers — for saying forever when you only meant now. You said you were going to come back but just left again. I understand the weight and the power words hold over people now and hope you do too.

Maybe deep down I always knew the truth but forced myself to not admit it.

We weren't going to last. I had no choice but to accept the reality that was in front of me — we were just "almosts." We were, and then we just weren't.

I no longer have you as a contact on my phone. I no longer have your photos. I no longer hear your voice or all the little things you used to say to me. I no longer cry or have a heavy heart when I hear your name. What isn't meant for me, I am learning to gracefully let go of. It's OK to cry. It's OK to take time to process it and move on. The sun will come back out; it always does.

You were not my destination, but you most definitely were a crossroad that helped me get to where I am today.

Everything happens for a reason, and I see so many reasons now. Our almost taught me things I wouldn't have learned otherwise and gave me many precious memories which I am grateful for.

Wherever we go individually, I know will be breathtaking. Life is full of goodbyes; some sudden, and some you see coming. Regardless, it's never easy, but it is always worth it for the next "hello" that comes. True love exists and is worth not rushing to get to. After all, the best is yet to come.

"Everyone you meet has a part to play in your story. And while some may take a chapter, others a paragraph, and most will be no more than scribbled notes in the margins, someday, you'll meet someone who will become so integral to your life, you'll put their name in the title." — Beau Taplin

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10 Dates For All Couples, Including Long Distance Lovers, To Have This Valentine's Day

"I'm sick of all this lovey dovey sh*t" - Drake


So originally, I was in Florida for college, so my boyfriend and I were going to be apart for Valentines day this year, but things changed. Before that I was trying to come up with dates for us to have, but now that we aren't apart I figured that I would still share the ideas for all the long distance couples out there looking for something simple and easy to do this Valentines Day. All of these can be used if you're together or apart this Valentines day. So here's 10 date ideas for ALL couples to share this Valentines Day.

1. Watch a movie together.


Kinda lame but for long distance couples, there's websites that allow you and somebody else to watch the same movie and video chat while the movies playing.

2. Cook together and have dinner.


Get on FaceTime long distance couples and cook the same thing for dinner at the same time so yo guys can "sit down together" and have a meal like you would if you were at home.

3. Share the sunset, or sun rise.


If you can, because this one might be a little difficult.

4. Listen to music together.


New music, old music, if you guys have a special song.

5. Share the highlight and low point of each others day.


You guys could continue to do this everyday.

6.Create a photo album together.


You can make digital photo albums.

7. DIY night.


Find a few DIY's that you guys want to try and make it friendly competition, over FaceTime.

8. Read to each other.


Whether it be a book, or a poem, or song lyrics.

9. Dance around to music together.


Obviously less fun over Face Time, but still fun.

10. The traditional Valentines day.


Send flowers, chocolate covered strawberries, chocolates, sweet cards and blah blah blah.

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To The Boy I Fell In Then Out Of Love With, A Final Message

I want people to understand it is VERY possible to fall in love with the wrong person.


It wasn't right.

And as much as it pains me to come to this realization, it's also liberating.

I fell in love with you. But I fell in love with the wrong person.

I'm sorry for trying to change you. I'm sorry for trying to reconstruct who you are as a person. But, because I now see these red flags and understand the emotional exhaustion we caused each other, I know now it can't work. I had too much hope in the potential — the what could have been. The impossible. I envisioned the ideal, picturesque relationship with you. I thought that if you changed the things I wanted you to change, everything would be fine. I couldn't force you to do that, though. I couldn't keep forcing anything.

There are so many beautiful things about you I will cherish forever.

I see so much good in you that a lot of people couldn't. Our relationship was special and strong in certain ways. You were the first person I ever really fell for. And for that, I will hold a place in my heart for you that will never, ever leave, no matter who comes into my life.

You are irreplaceable.

That being said, it's important to also note where things went wrong. Where things just couldn't be fixed. Where tireless effort just wasn't worth it anymore.

Love isn't supposed to be easy, but it also shouldn't be nearly as difficult as we made it out to be. I'm sorry we couldn't love each other. Maybe in another time or another life, it will be different. But it won't work now.

To the boy I fell in love with, I loved you, but I can't be with you.

I want people to understand it is VERY possible to fall in love with the wrong person. Red flags can pervade, but you will push them under the table because you don't want them to be true. I want people to realize you can still find so much good in a person and fall for a person for so many different reasons, but they STILL aren't right for you. All of this is real and valid and NEEDS to get addressed. If not, you will find yourself in an endless, toxic cycle of hurt and heartache.

Below, I've attached an article written by Kristine Fellizar entitled "20-Easy-To-Miss Signs You're In Love With The Wrong Person." I would make a list myself, but I feel like her list explicates this topic well, and I related to many of the ideas embedded in her piece.

Don't look at your past relationships as a mistake. Learn and grow from one another. Find that person that shouldn't have to change anything for you. You deserve a love that is wholesome and worth it.

You can be happy. Love someone for them. No more molding. No more wishful thinking. Just loving.

Easy, simple loving.

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