A Letter To The Stressed-Out High School Student

A Letter To The Stressed-Out High School Student

In the grand scheme of things, these years are so irrelevant
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To the Stressed Out High School Student,

I know it feels like your entire life depends on these four years. I know it feels like you're never going to get out of this school. But as a third year college student, I can promise you that in the scheme of it all, high school is so irrelevant.

I know you probably think that if you don't ace your SATS or get your GPA up, you're never going to get into college. I got into several colleges with just average SAT scores and an average GPA- and I wasn't even that involved in extracurricular activities! As long as your grades are decent, you will be fine. And if they aren't, community college is a great place to start. I know many people who didn't do too well in high school and now go to great colleges because they started out at community college. Plus you'll be saving a ton of money!

I know it feels like your reputation is based on these four years. As cliche as it sounds and as many times as you have heard it, no one cares about who you were in high school once you graduate. You will meet so many people in college, whether or not you decide to go away. It's crazy how fast we forget about the high school drama once you're not there anymore. You become so accustomed to your new environment and new routines that you forget about all of the silly high school gossip and rumors. I actually was looking through my yearbook recently and realized I don't even remember a good half of the people in my grade. And for the ones I do remember, I haven't seen 90 percent of them since graduation.

Finally, I know it feels like you're never going to graduate. I promise you it goes by so much faster than you think. I'll admit freshman and sophomore year tend to drag a little bit, but once you hit junior year it flies by from that point on. You're hit with getting your permit, then taking your SATS, then getting your license, and next thing you know it's senior year and you're applying to colleges. Before you know it you're buying your prom dress and sending in your housing deposit, and soon enough it's graduation day. There are so many milestones within junior and senior year that the time really does fly by.

Everyone will tell you to make your senior year count because there is no other year like it, and that you'll miss it once you graduate. Yes, senior year is fun, but college years are so much better. Although it can't hurt to miss, I promise you won't be missing much by not going to your last high school football game or even prom if you really don't want to. Don't feel pressured to attend everything senior year. If you're not interested, that's totally fine.

In the grand scheme of life, high school is such a small part of it. These years will not determine the rest of your life. So much can change after high school. You never know what path lies ahead of you, so don't stress too much about the future, but know that there are much better things to come.

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I'd Rather Be Single Than Settle – Here Is Why Being Picky Is Okay

They're on their best behavior when you're dating.
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Dating nowadays described in one word: annoying.

What's even more annoying? when people tell you that you're being too "picky" when it comes to dating. Yes, from an outside perspective sometimes that's exactly what it looks like; however, when looking at it from my perspective it all makes sense.

I've heard it all:

"He was cute, why didn't you like him?"

"You didn't even give him a chance!"

"You pay too much attention to the little things!"

What people don't understand is that it's OKAY to be picky when it comes to guys. For some reason, girls in college freak out and think they're supposed to have a boyfriend by now, be engaged by the time they graduate, etc. It's all a little ridiculous.

However, I refuse to put myself on a time table such as this due to the fact that these girls who feel this way are left with no choice but to overlook the things in guys that they shouldn't be overlooking, they're settling and this is something that I refuse to do.

So this leaves the big question: What am I waiting for?

Well, I'm waiting for a guy who...

1. Wants to know my friends.

Blessed doesn't even begin to describe how lucky I am to have the friends that I do.

I want a guy who can hang out with my friends. If a guy makes an effort to impress your friends then that says a lot about him and how he feels about you. This not only shows that he cares about you but he cares about the people in your life as well.

Someone should be happy to see you happy and your friends contribute to that happiness, therefore, they should be nothing more than supportive and caring towards you and your friendships.

2. Actually, cares to get to know me.

Although this is a very broad statement, this is the most important one. A guy should want to know all about you. He should want to know your favorite movie, favorite ice cream flavor, favorite Netflix series, etc. Often, (the guys I get stuck on dates with) love to talk about themselves: they would rather tell you about what workout they did yesterday, what their job is, and what they like to do rather than get to know you.

This is something easy to spot on the first date, so although they may be "cute," you should probably drop them if you leave your date and can recite everything about their life since the day they were born, yet they didn't catch what your last name was.

3. How they talk about other women.

It does not matter who they're talking about, if they call their ex-girlfriend crazy we all know she probably isn't and if she is it's probably their fault.

If they talk bad about their mom, let's be honest, if they're disrespecting their mother they're not going to respect you either. If they mention a girl's physical appearances when describing them. For example, "yeah, I think our waitress is that blonde chick with the big boobs"

Well if that doesn't hint they're a complete f* boy then I don't know what else to tell you. And most importantly calling other women "bitches" that's just disrespectful.

Needless to say, if his conversations are similar to ones you'd hear in a frat house, ditch him.

4. Phone etiquette.

If he can't put his phone down long enough to take you to dinner then he doesn't deserve for you to be sitting across from him.

If a guy is serious about you he's going to give you his undivided attention and he's going to do whatever it takes to impress you and checking Snapchat on a date is not impressive. Also, notice if his phone is facedown, then there's most likely a reason for it.

He doesn't trust who or what could pop up on there and he clearly doesn't want you seeing. Although I'm not particularly interested in what's popping up on their phones, putting them face down says more about the guy than you think it does.

To reiterate, it's okay to be picky ladies, you're young, there's no rush.

Remember these tips next time you're on a date or seeing someone, and keep in mind: they're on their best behavior when you're dating. Then ask yourself, what will they be like when they're comfortable? Years down the road? Is this what I really want? If you ask yourself these questions you might be down the same road I have stumbled upon, being too picky.. and that's better than settling.

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Writing Saved My Sanity

Write it all down when you can't talk to anyone.

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I love writing.

I have since elementary school, and I've dreamed of becoming a published author. I started off writing stupid plays in elementary school, then it grew it almost writing a full-blown novel in middle school. I have no idea where that thing went to. It was all notebook paper and bad writing. In high school, my writing was kinda pushed to the side so I could focus on school. When I entered college, I started writing small poems about my now ex-boyfriend.

I was scared to express myself to him sometimes, the intensity of my feelings for him scared me. So instead of telling him, I wrote them down. When I tried to share them with him, he hated it. He thought writing down feelings was weird and creepy. So I didn't share anything else with him. When we finally broke up for good, everything just poured out of me. What I couldn't express verbally, I wrote or typed out.

I always have ideas flowing through my head. They never cease and I wouldn't want them to. Writing gives me an escape, from stress, work, school, or fights. It gives me a place to vent and to be open with everything. This is a reason I love writing for Odyssey, not only has this place brought me amazing friends but revived my love for writing. I'm never without my notebook anymore, I'd get distracted in class by an idea and have to write I think then and there.

I love sharing my more personal writing with close friends, especially my poems as of late. I found that I have a voice for young women who find themselves in a toxic relationship much like mine was. I want to speak out and show them that you can grow from the bullshit. It may take some time, but you will be better.

Writing saved my sanity. It allows me to express myself without having to use my actual voice. Anyone who knows me, knows I hate public speaking. I tend to psych myself out leading up to it. My current projects include writing for Odyssey every week, I'm in the process of trying to continue my short stories, and I'm excited to announce that I'm currently working on my very first poetry book!

Writing has given me so much, and I'm so looking forward to making a career out of something I love so much.

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