To My Big Who’s Graduating, From Her Little Who Still Has 2 Years Left

To My Big Who’s Graduating, From Her Little Who Still Has 2 Years Left

Please don't leave me!

Dear Big,

I don’t even know where to start. You’ve only been my big for the past year and a half, but I honestly don’t remember what college was like without you.

Throughout our dating process, it became more and more clear to me that you would soon become a part of my life that could never be removed. You were the older sister I never had, and the guidance I desperately needed during my freshman year.

As soon as we officially became Big and Little, you officially became part of my family. Filling the mentor-void I had in my life, you began to lead me through our sorority, college, and life in general. As an only child, I couldn’t wait to get a Big once I rushed, and you have lived up to every expectation I had and more.

It’s hard to think I will be running our Pham without you next year, as it seems like just yesterday that you were scared to be the matriarch. Although I am scared to do college without you, I know you are leaving me with the wisdom and guidance to get me through my remaining two years. And, if I get lost along the way, I know you’re always a call away, even when you’re in the real world.

Thank you for the laughs, thank you for the snuggles, and thank you for the advice. Thank you for the memories, thank you for the guidance, and thank you for the life-lessons. Thank you for answering my FaceTime calls at all hours of the day. Thank you for letting me hang out in your apartment whenever I want.

Most importantly, thank you for fulfilling your role as my Big in the greatest ways possible.

Love always,

Your Little

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To The Dad Who Didn't Want Me, It's Mutual Now

Thank you for leaving me because I am happy.

Thank you, for leaving me.

Thank you, for leaving me when I was little.

Thank you, for not putting me through the pain of watching you leave.

Thank you, for leaving me with the best mother a daughter could ask for.

I no longer resent you. I no longer feel anger towards you. I wondered for so long who I was. I thought that because I didn't know half of my blood that I was somehow missing something. I thought that who you were defined me. I was wrong. I am my own person. I am strong and capable and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

In my most vulnerable of times, I struggled with the fact that you didn't want me. You could have watched me grow into the person that I have become, but you didn't. You had a choice to be in my life. I thought that the fact that my own father didn't want me spoke to my own worth. I was wrong. I am so worthy. I am deserving, and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

You have missed so much. From my first dance to my first day of college, and you'll continue to miss everything. You won't see me graduate, you won't walk me down the aisle, and you won't get to see me follow my dreams. You'll never get that back, but I don't care anymore. What I have been through, and the struggles that I have faced have brought me to where I am today, and I can't complain. I go to a beautiful school, I have the best of friends, I have an amazing family, and that's all I really need.

Whoever you are, I hope you read this. I hope you understand that you have missed out on one of the best opportunities in your life. I could've been your daughter. I could have been your little girl. Now I am neither, nor will I ever be.

So thank you for leaving me because I am happy. I understand my self-worth, and I understand that you don't define me. You have made me stronger. You have helped make me who I am without even knowing it.

So, thank you for leaving me.

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10 Signs You're The 'Chandler Bing' Of Your Friend Group That Couldn't BE More Accurate

Could you BE any more amazing?


You either know the "Chandler Bing" in your friend group or you ARE the "Chandler Bing" of your friend group. Know the signs:

1. You are the funniest one in your friend group. 


Or you think you are.

2. You aren't the best at relationships. 


There's probably a Janice in your life.

3. Your roommate is your best friend. 


Even if you didn't know each other beforehand.

4. You don't enjoy office jobs. 


They pay the bills, but you would love to do something creative.

5. You know how to make your friends laugh. 


Which comes in handy when cheering them up.

6. You say a lot of things that you don't mean to say out loud. 


At least they are usually funny.

7. You are clumsy. 


You have broken lots of dishes and chairs in your day.

8. You aren't the strongest. 


Who needs strength anyway?

9. No one remembers what you do. 


Not because they don't care — they just don't remember.

10. You're always there for your friends. 


Whether it's to support them or comfort them, you are there.

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