I usually do not write on these subjects, but this letter is to myself as much as it is to anyone else. I write these words with tears streaming down my face and a heart broken into pieces, but my hope is not shattered. I hope and pray that this letter will speak to someone else going through what I've been feeling.
Recently, I have been stuck in a hard place between loving someone so deeply and knowing it just wasn't working. Love is blind and love cuts deep. I didn’t have the strength to do what God was calling me to do, nor was I willing to lose the person who meant the most to me. But God has a way of working in these situations, and He will intervene. Whether you’ve been dumped, cheated on, or had the courage to let go, God will see it through.
“The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.” (Psalms 34:18.)
Letting go is the hardest part and it may take quite some time, but He is working each and every step of the way. Throughout this rollercoaster of a relationship, God has taught me more about love than I ever thought possible.
First, He has taught me to be thankful for the memories, for the lessons learned, and for the love I got to share. No one else can explain or understand the deep, deep level that you get to know another individual on over such a long period of time. When you can look at that person and know exactly what they are thinking. When you can say or do anything around them without feeling an ounce of discomfort. When you can go to them with absolutely anything and they will listen and guide you through it. My boyfriend was always on my side, he always had my best interests at heart—we were a team.
But love has also taught me this: you can’t change a person. There are going to be things you wish you could change and you can pray in time that they will. Maybe you’ll learn to overlook these minor differences or compromise on some of them. But maybe the issues are too deep, too strong, and too important. Whatever it may be, do not sell yourself short. Don’t sacrifice your morals, values, or things you deem important in a relationship. There comes a time when you have to put yourself first and realize someone out there will give you all that you deserve; and more importantly, because they want to.
The most important lesson I’ve learned about love is this: I was given a gift. That gift was a glimpse of true love at a young age. I got to experience that on many different occasions. But I know that God’s love is a million times stronger. It will never let us down or disappoint. I know that He is the greatest example of true love and He wants us to experience that in this life and experience it to the fullest.
“For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (Romans 8:38-39.)
So, to the girl with the broken heart, keep your head up and keep your heart strong. Jesus has a plan greater than anything you could ever imagine. Keep your eyes focused on Him and he will get you through it.
“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing!” (Isaiah 43:18-19.)
