To my abusers:
First, let me acknowledge that some people actually use me for good reasons, and that it is my job- to obtain your undesirables — however, these days I wonder if you even know the difference from an "undesirable" and someone you like to take advantage of. So, to the people who use me just to babysit the people you don't have an ounce of interest in, this part is for you.
Whether you consider it or not, people have feelings. Yes, just like you. I know it may be easy for you to discard people who are interested in you, but do you ever think about the effects of being discarded?
If you come across people that you genuinely don't have an interest in, then you should be honest and transparent with them and not place then within my realm and simply leave them there. I have been taken advantage for the longest time. I have been left with people who deserve more than being some source of entertainment when you're bored.
To those abused:
Well, let me take the time to acknowledge how there are two types of people who are dropped off in me. Either you are placed there because the one you have an interest in doesn't have mutual feelings and it's simply the best for you and the other person. Or the person you have an interest in definitely doesn't have mutual feelings, but instead of completely getting rid of you, they "friend zone" just for a source of entertainment.
If you are the first person, then I advise you to keep hope, but also slowly start to move on and seek others who show mutual feelings. Just because you are "friend zoned" doesn't mean you have to stay there forever, hoping to be set free. You are already free with plenty of options, Just remain confident, and be yourself.
If you are the second person, then listen up because I have some words for you. One, you have to realize your worth and not let others take advantage of your feelings. I'm not encouraging you to mask your emotions at all times, however, you don't want to be seen as too vulnerable to someone who is looking to use you.
I'm also not advising that just because someone doesn't have mutual feelings that you can't be friends at all, but you have to realize the difference from being just a friend and being just a friend in the friend zone. One, being a friend in the friend zone is more awkward because your feelings are exposed. For instance, your intentions of being more than friends are in the light, and even though they might not speak of the subject, the significant other might always have that thought in the back of their mind. If not handled well, this instance can even cause a stunt in the growth of your overall friendship, and that is the last thing I want.
As the great poet Drake once said, "know yourself, know your worth."
