It seems that lately you can’t open up Facebook or Twitter without it being flooded with letters to exes, first loves, and second loves. Most consist of explanations of irrational behavior, declaring to be broken from previous relationships and blaming hurt on old boyfriends.
I’m here to tell you that I agree with none of it. I’m here to write a letter from my own point-of-view, the point of a (gasp!) female heartbreaker.
To my boyfriend:
I want you to know that, yes, I was a heartbreaker. I threw someone’s feelings on the ground and stomped on them. I didn’t listen to sappy love songs while binging on ice cream after the break-up. Instead, I went out with my girls and partied. I celebrated the end of my two and a half year relationship. I was never upset and I never will be. This is only because as time went on, I knew the relationship wasn’t for me; I didn’t belong; it wasn’t right.
I’m not looking for you to “piece me together” nor “be patient with me” because of my previous boyfriend. I’m not looking for you to pity me because of what someone else did to me. This is so much of what people value in relationships today, and I’m more than glad to say that I won’t have any of it.
I also want you to know that these things don’t remove value from my love: it is still genuine. When I say “I love you,” I mean it with all of my heart. When I laugh at your horribly corny jokes, it’s because you really do make me happy. I adore the way your eyes light up when you see me. All of these things are true, and I hope you can believe me without any doubts. I understand it is scary to think what could happen in the future, that I could snap your heart in half; however, please understand you can snap my heart into a thousand tiny pieces just as easily.
A few promises can be made from me to you. I promise I won’t hurt you intentionally. I will never purposefully play with your emotions. I won’t flirt with other guys behind your back or push you away. That is what a relationship is about: getting on a special, personal level.
With these promises, I have some expectations for you. I expect you to love me no less: your past should never define your future. If you tore your ex’s heart to absolute shreds, I would still love you because that’s what true love is. I expect you to treat me right: I may have disregarded someone’s feelings before, but that doesn’t mean you should disregard mine. There is a difference between doing what is best for you and doing what is convenient for you. It was best for me to end my last relationship, but you shouldn’t blow me off simply because it’s the easy way out.
Lastly, I want to thank you. Thank you for sticking by my side through everything we’ve been through so far. I can’t wait to see what else will come our way.
Love,
The Female Heartbreaker
