To My Best Friend, My Confidant, This One's For You, Dad

To My Best Friend, My Confidant, This One's For You, Dad

Thank you for being my number one supporter and my best friend.


Dear Dad,

I am sure not many girls can say that their dad helped them pick out their prom dress or gives them boy advice when they needed it. For the past 20 years (aka my whole life), I must say you have been my best friend.

Dad, you have been there since the day I was born, guiding me through this roller coaster of a life. I do not think there has ever been a time that you could not help me, because you always figured it out.

You always reminded me how important school was, and still is. Each and every day since you were 18, you have woke up at the butt crack of dawn to go to work. I have always made fun of you for falling asleep before 7 pm most nights, but I know it is because you are working hard in order to support me and our family. And every evening, when you would arrive home in your mud-soiled clothes, you'd remind me that is the reason my education is important.

With that, you have always made sure I have put my successes first. You have stood behind me and my goals, and you have helped guide me if I ever fell off track. I appreciate all of this so much. I know it is because you want better for me than you had. You want me to never have to struggle, and you want me to be happy with my career when that day comes.

Not only have you helped me reach for the stars and accomplish so much, but you have been there in other ways, too. You always have reminded me that you are just a phone call away, and I do not think you have missed a single call either. Whenever I just need someone to talk to or need advice, you are the first person I think of.

Every break-up I have been through, you have been there to lift my spirits. When I do not know how to cook something, you remind me how to do it. If my car breaks, you do your best to fix it. I really am not sure where I would be without you, Dad. You do so much for me outside of just being my dad.

I appreciate you so much, and I do not think I can say it enough.

I love you,


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To The Dad Who Didn't Want Me, It's Mutual Now

Thank you for leaving me because I am happy.

Thank you, for leaving me.

Thank you, for leaving me when I was little.

Thank you, for not putting me through the pain of watching you leave.

Thank you, for leaving me with the best mother a daughter could ask for.

I no longer resent you. I no longer feel anger towards you. I wondered for so long who I was. I thought that because I didn't know half of my blood that I was somehow missing something. I thought that who you were defined me. I was wrong. I am my own person. I am strong and capable and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

In my most vulnerable of times, I struggled with the fact that you didn't want me. You could have watched me grow into the person that I have become, but you didn't. You had a choice to be in my life. I thought that the fact that my own father didn't want me spoke to my own worth. I was wrong. I am so worthy. I am deserving, and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

You have missed so much. From my first dance to my first day of college, and you'll continue to miss everything. You won't see me graduate, you won't walk me down the aisle, and you won't get to see me follow my dreams. You'll never get that back, but I don't care anymore. What I have been through, and the struggles that I have faced have brought me to where I am today, and I can't complain. I go to a beautiful school, I have the best of friends, I have an amazing family, and that's all I really need.

Whoever you are, I hope you read this. I hope you understand that you have missed out on one of the best opportunities in your life. I could've been your daughter. I could have been your little girl. Now I am neither, nor will I ever be.

So thank you for leaving me because I am happy. I understand my self-worth, and I understand that you don't define me. You have made me stronger. You have helped make me who I am without even knowing it.

So, thank you for leaving me.

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