"Let's Keep In Touch!"

"Let's Keep In Touch!"

The importance of keeping in contact with your friends and family back home.

The exhilarating feeling of starting a new chapter, an adventure with unexpected terrain, brings out a sense of excitement and rejuvenation for anyone wanting to have a fresh start. For many seniors in high school, going off to college is a new beginning they have been dreaming of for too long. For those who didn’t have the best experience in their teenage years, who wanted to be away from the students and acquaintances they were trapped with for 4 years in high school, moving onto college is the escape they want and feel they need. Because of this, students can be so consumed with being in college and starting life on their own that they have little contact with family and friends back home. This is a snag students fall in and continue to do, and it is a routine students need to stop.

Starting on their own, students can feel thrilled and become enraptured in the very idea of having such a great amount of independence thrusted upon them. This can also be a difficult and challenging transition for any student in a number of ways; being in a new environment, not knowing the people around you for the first time in years, feeling uncomfortable where you are starting off in college, and other numerous tensions makes the enthusiastic soon-to-be college student feel small, vulnerable, and even scared. And this is predicament almost every freshmen college student goes through.

This unnerving feeling is why we need to maintain a constant contact with old friends from back home and high school and especially our family: they are the people that truly understand us. When we feel at our worst, in our most uncomfortable and worst times, they are the ones we can talk, vent, and explain our issues to without bias. From having a tough first week in college, going through your first midterm, having trouble with your roommate, or feeling isolated and alone with so many unknown people surrounding you, the worst solution to combat these problems is to deal with them on your own. Your friends are going through the same transitions and problems as you are and can relate to you. What is better way to continue a friendship than complaining together about the stresses of college and then encouraging each other to continue on with their new chapter? They still want to be there for you and want to know how you are doing; initiating contact with them might even help them deal with issues they’ve been holding back and finally have someone cheer them on when they have felt isolated. With family, even though each family situation is different, they are a huge support system we can’t forget about. They raised you, brought you into the world, and have done what they could to bring you to this very point in life. They want you to achieve great success and want to know everything that is happening in your next step in life: the good, the bad, and the ugly. Though this can be seen as nagging, parents only pry about how college is going because they want to make sure we are enjoying our time and are not overly stressed or dealing with issues on our own. It should be comforting feeling knowing that our families are looking out for us and we shouldn’t take it for granted.

In the end, both your friends and family want to hear back from you to celebrate the triumphs you’ve already had in college and be there for you when you are going through the difficulties you’ve already experienced. As freshmen, we still have 4 years of going through the up’s and down’s of the whole college experience and there will be plenty of times where we will need to talk to the people that know us inside and out. So, remember to keep up the phone, send a text, and reach out to the family and friends that are rooting for you.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

SEE ALSO: To The Girls Who Float Between Friend Groups

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A Poem: My Mother

In honor of Mother's Day, that was on the 12th, here is a poem dedicated to my mother.


To the only person who can be my mentor, friend, and leader at the same time

To someone who would make me read my own books before bedtime

And puts everything down to make sure there is a smile on my face

To the person that I find impossible to ever replace.

Somehow you are always right even when it seems wrong

And when the worst does happen, how do you still manage to stay so strong?

I'm not only impressed but inspired by you

Knowing that somehow you'll always know me better than I do.

When I'm frustrated and annoy you, you simply try to understand me

Because you have always told me that even when you can't understand, plain acceptance is the key

You have listened to all my laughs, heard me cry, and felt my emotions like they were your own

You are the only reason I am joyous and the security I need to know that I am never alone.

To the only person who has truly taught me how to live

And watched me grow and make mistakes yet still knows how to forgive

Because that's who she is, certainly not like any other

There are many women but none like my own mother.

Happy Mother's Day!

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