While some may find women who still hold on to the remnants of their failed relationship admirable, in my eyes, you're a coward. Just recently, a tragic incident occurred which caused grievances all over social media and various news outlets. Nineteen year old Kendra Childs lost her life to a senseless act of violence. Childs, mother to a two year old and a native of Texas was found by her boyfriend in their home, shot and killed the day before her birthday. Many sources including Twittersphere, have indicated that the alleged suspect of the brutal killing is none other than Childs' boyfriend's ex-beau, whose tweets have raised thousands of eyebrows. His tweets followed a certain pattern as such, "My plan is to plot for a year, And i'm gone kill them people. I don't give a f*** if the police see this", "I think I'm really evil enough to eat a motherf***** alive! Like b**** I don't give a f*** about you... I'll real life kill you and eat you alive b****!" and it went on.

Now, we should all stop for a minute and really think about the situation. Think about the psychological and emotional state of Childs' alleged murderer. No woman, nor man should ever feel the need to end a person's life because the shoe that couldn't fit was handed to someone else. It is safe to say that we don't know what might have transpired between the two prior, but the fact of the matter is that taking someone's life was completely out of the question. "Crazy" girlfriends aren't respectable nor desirable, especially ex-girlfriends, so stop glorifying them. If things between you and your partner did not work out, respect yourself enough to move on.

Many tie the term, "love" into situations like these, but please do see that love doesn't make you kill someone. Take a few minutes to read the Bible's definition of love, not society's. Love doesn't bear resentment, envy nor does it boast. Love is caring, patient and kind, that's what love is. It honestly hurts my heart to know that an innocent child will now have to grow without her loving mother-- an integral person in her life-- all because another human being harbored enough hatred and envy in their heart to take her life away.

As a message to you all, know when to move on. Be mature, be confident in who you are to know that if one relationship fails, there are plenty more that can be built. No man, nor woman, is your life. It will hurt when things go sour-- that's inevitable-- but be smart enough to see the bigger picture and hold your life in your hands, not another's.