20 Not-Quite Words Of Wisdom From A 20-Year-Old College Girl

20 Not-Quite Words Of Wisdom From A 20-Year-Old College Girl

I don't claim to know everything, but I do know a few things.


I like to think that I've learned a lot in my long 20 years on this planet. I'm too young to be considered wise, so this is just a collection of things I know now that others should know, too.

1. You don't need to have a friend group

I don't like people. Crowds make me nervous, and having too many friends makes me anxious because I want to be best friends with all of them. Friends are an investment of time and emotions, so if you can't handle having too many people in your life, that's okay! You'll get by just fine with a few good friends, rather than having a whole group.

2. Everyone is just as confused as you are

At every stage of life, everyone is stumbling around just as much as you are. Few young 20-somethings have it all figured out. I sure don't. You'll all figure it out together.

3. School is only hard if you make it hard

If you have a learning disability or any mental health condition that makes school difficult, please disregard this point. For your standard student, though, school is really just a matter of time management. If you keep on top of your assignments and ask for help when you need it, school really isn't hard. It becomes hard when you procrastinate, fall behind and don't pay attention. Don't make it harder than it needs to be.

4. You might have been a genius in grade school, but you'll likely be average in college 

There's nothing wrong with being average, but it'll come as quite the shock. Most college students were AP/Honors students in high school. What made you "the smart kid" in high school probably won't translate the same way in college.

5. It's fine to be "average"

It's fine to not stand out or make a huge, significant mark in the world. 99.9999% of the human population is relatively unremarkable. Don't feel as though you have no purpose if you just coast along. That's what all the rest of us are doing, too.

6. Find a few things you really enjoy and invest in them

For me, I like video games and makeup, so that's where most of my recreational money goes to. Having a hobby is healthy. Always indulge in your interests when you have precious little free time. It helps relieve the stress of work and school.

7. Don't take your best friend for granted

A best friend is absolutely invaluable. I spent 14 years living 10 minutes from my best friend, and I didn't realize how much I would miss her when she transferred to Florida for college. Cherish every sleepover, every shopping trip, and every food run you have with your best friend before life makes it harder to see each other.

8. Boys are stupid at every age, and likely always will be

Boys had cooties in elementary school, were jerks in middle school, and were just plain stupid in high school. They'll stay stupid in college. Don't try to understand them. They're a different breed and it's easier just to observe than to question.

9. When you find a boy less stupid than the others, hold onto him

There will every so often be a boy who's a liiiiittle smarter than the rest of them. HOLD ONTO HIM TIGHTLY AND NEVER LET HIM GO. If you lose him, you have to dive back into the Sea of Stupid.

10. Kindness and humility will always go further than hatefulness and pride

Your first move should always be kindness. Everyone is living their own life with their own problems. You do not need to approach everyone or every situation with coldness. A smile can go a long way when meeting someone new, or even when passing by a stranger. Let everyone's first impression of you be one of kindness. Always remember you are just as human as everyone else.

11. Establishing a routine will always make your life easier 

Some people are more impulsive or spontaneous, sure, but for the most part, routines are healthy. I've reached a point in my old age where winter break in college makes me bored and anxious. I much prefer having a routine of going to class and work every day.

12. There's always time to care for yourself

Self care is extremely important. It can be taking time for your hobbies, doing a face mask, going for a run, taking a nap... Anything that will make you feel more you. Take time for yourself, always.

13. Your happiness should come first, but don't be selfish

Protect yourself and pursue your own happiness, but don't recklessly hurt anyone in the process of doing so. Consider other people's feelings and how they might react to your actions.

14. There is a such thing as being too nice

As a girl who works in retail.... Oh boy. There is definitely such a thing as being too nice, especially when it comes to older men. Laugh at too many jokes and your 65-year-old customer thinks you want to go to dinner with him, or that it's okay to call you a "fresh young flower." True story. It's okay to reel it back and be less nice when you realize someone has gotten more comfortable with you than you intended them to.

15. You're entitled to a feeling of safety and respect at your job

If I had a dollar for every time I've been harassed at work by a coworker, I'd have like $20. That's still $20 more than I should have. If I had a NICKEL for every time I've been hit on or harassed by a customer at work... I'd have another $20.

I never want to be "that girl" who complains about the guys, but it's okay to be that girl. No one, man or woman, should be put in uncomfortable situations at work. Speak up if you're uncomfortable. Stop being friendly to creeps. They're not entitled to your friendliness if they can't keep their mouths shut.

16. Impulse buying, even if it's "only $20!," is always a bad idea

I've learned this the VERY hard way. Every time you find yourself saying it's only $xx, put that amount into your savings. If you wouldn't miss it when you impulsively buy something, you won't miss it when it's sitting in your savings either. TRUST ME. Also, take a few days to think over each purchase before you actually buy something. Your impulse buying will go WAY down and save you so much $$!

17. Start saving money as early as you can afford to, because you'll regret it if you don't

I wish I had saved a lot more before college. I wish I had put half the money I spent over the years on things I didn't need into my savings. Don't spend now and regret later; put your money away and don't touch it.

18. Mind your business and let other people live their lives however they want to

Don't poke your nose into other people's business. Everyone is entitled to the same privacy and freedom as you are. It's their body, their life, their relationship, their job, etc. Mind your own business and focus on yourself instead of focusing on what others are doing or not doing.

19. Social media is fun, but don't let it control you

The older I get, the more jaded I get about social media. It has its uses, but it shouldn't take over your life. Spend your time on more meaningful hobbies. Your worth and your life are not defined by likes or followers or the opinions of people online.

20. Love is the most powerful thing in this world

You may regret being mean to someone, you may regret being cold to someone, and you may regret not saying you loved someone enough. You will NEVER regret loving with your whole heart. You will never regret telling your family, your friends, or your significant other that you love them. Have love for your planet, your fellow humans, and for yourself. You'll never regret things you do or say out of love.

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20 Fun Facts To Use When Introducing Yourself

As we embark on the semester, we are put on the spot in order to share interesting details about ourselves. This article discloses possible fun facts to tell others!

After experiencing my first week of classes, I have learned that every student needs a handy-dandy list of fun facts about themselves to tell other people. Many professors use the first couple of classes to learn about their students, so you may need to think about who you are and how you want to introduce yourself to your professor and classmates. We all have that one go-to interesting fact about ourselves, but sometimes you just have to mix it up!

1. My favorite hobby is...

What do you do in your free time? Personally, I love to stay active! I am a competitive Latin dancer and enjoy teaching and taking Zumba classes, going to the gym, and hiking.

2. I love...

Is there something, someone, or somewhere that you love? What makes your heart ache? What do you miss when it's gone? I can say that I love my friends because I feel my most confident when I'm surrounded by those who love and support me.

3. I look up to...

Is there someone you adore? Who mesmerizes you? Who do you wish to learn from? After watching "A Ballerina's Tale," I discovered Misty Copeland. In 2015 she became the first African American ballet dancer to become the Female Principal Dancer at American Ballet Theatre. Her passion, grace, and strength continuously motivate me to better myself as an athlete and an individual.

4. This art speaks to me because...

Coco Chanel said, "In order to be irreplaceable one must always be different." This encourages me to always follow my heart no matter what. I will never follow society's standards and norms because they do not define me. Chanel's saying definitely influences my character and lifestyle.

5. A funny and/or embarrassing memory of me is...

When you make others laugh they want to spend time and make memories with you! Don't be afraid to embarrass yourself. You will come off as down to earth, easy-going, and loyal.

6. My siblings or lack thereof influenced me by...

I can go on and on about my brother, who is 10 years older than I. We have opposite personalities and despite the age gap, we're quite close.

7. My pet(s) are my life because...

Only sad people don't like hearing about furry creatures, even if your pets are slimy and slithering creatures all human beings enjoy hearing pet tales!

8. I'm afraid of...

Your personality can be revealed by your likes and dislikes, including the things that you fear. I am terrified of change and the unknown, hence, the future is an anxiety-inducing topic to discuss for me.

9. I am the way I am because...

What have you gone through in life that has shaped you into who you are today? Remember to be open minded and allow yourself to open up to your peers. You may be surprised by how others respond and/or what others have endured as well.

10. The most unusual item that can be found in your dorm...

This is a fun fact about yourself that can easily liven up an awkward conversation. Think about your quirks and differences! One item I have in my dorm is my teddy bear, Peter, whom I like to joke is my boyfriend.

11. My dream job is...

In college, "What's your major?" is a widespread question. Nonetheless, skip the boring statement of "I'm majoring in..." and go in depth on what your dream job is (hopefully your major factors in to this dream of yours).

12. My hidden talents are...

Angelina Jolie is a knife thrower. Kendall Jenner can produce bird noises. Amanda Seyfried can crochet and knit. Is there anything special you can do? Some people have rare and unique talents, maybe you can think of some hidden talents of your own!

13. My guilty pleasure is...

I will say it a million times: don't be shy when introducing yourself to new people! I'll start by divulging my guilty pleasure: Youtube's family vlogging channel, "OKBaby"!

Check them out: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvUCbnwzySKgbKiB_...

14. Some activities on my bucket list are...

This is an easy way to grab people's attention and find others with similar desires as you. Be an adventurer! Go out of your comfort zone!

15. Talk about your best friend...

How would your best friend describe you? What do you love to do with your best friend?

16. Talk about an accomplishment of yours...

You are incredible and have achieved so much! Reveal something that you are proud of — show off a little!

17. This one time at my job...

Bosses breathing down your neck. Curious coworkers asking personal questions. Cursing customers who never leave you alone. Your job can be filled with tons of hilarious situations that can easily entertain a crowd.

18. During the summer...

Any scars with stories? Any summer flings? Any lessons learned from the tanning too long? Now that summer is over, disclose memories that can leave positive impressions on others.

19. I volunteer at...

Do you do any community service? Share a funny moment while you were volunteering. What did you learn while there? Would you continue?

20. [blank] is meaningful to me because...

What do you appreciate in life? What brightens your day? What makes you fall in love? What does someone have to do to make you smile?

Finally, remember to be outgoing! Reveal that three-mile smile and open your arms to learning about others. Spread smiles, love, and happiness.

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How To Know That You're In A New York State Of Mind

"New York is the city that other cities can only dream of being."


A New York State of Mind does not mean you reside in the city, it is a way of life that you live, in which only some people can handle. Here's how to know if you are in a New York State of Mind.

You've got goals, baby.

Setting your mind on your goals, knowing that you'll achieve them is the number one step. You'll do anything to pursue your goals, which is what any good New Yorker would do.

You're not afraid to be alone.

New York is one of the largest cities in the world, which might make it one of the most lonely. Being okay with being alone is a trait only some can hold.

You keep life moving at a fast pace.

You want to do things, and you want them now. Like the queen Ariana Grande says, "I want it, I got it."

You are accepting of all people.

People are people, and everyone deserves the same love as one another, and if you're in a New York State of Mind, you know that.

You know that failure is not an option.

If you fail at something, you don't just quit and give up, you simply find a new, and better way to do that task.

You stay authentic to yourself.

You know who you are, you don't need to prove yourself to anyone. If they appreciate you and want you in their corner, they should make that clear to you.

You have a plan for everything.

You are prepared for whatever is it that is coming at you.

You know the sky isn't the limit, because you're reaching for the stars.

People will think you're crazy, or your dreams are too big. If you're in the right state of mind, you simply ignore them. There's no point in dwelling on other people's thoughts, when you know what you want.

Possessing these personality traits, shows that you are in fact in a New York State of Mind. If you are, you're a bad ass who knows who you are and what you want, and you'll get it, no matter what obstacles life throws your way.

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