5 Important Lessons From 'Ten Stupid Things Women Do To Mess Up Their Lives'
Start writing a post
relationships

5 Important Lessons From 'Ten Stupid Things Women Do To Mess Up Their Lives'

How to properly love yourself and others.

1553
5 Important Lessons From 'Ten Stupid Things Women Do To Mess Up Their Lives'
Miranda Price

I recently finished a book called "Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess up Their Lives" by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. I had picked up the book for two reasons: 1) the title made me laugh and 2) it seemed like it'd be an interesting and useful read. Boy, was I right! Over the course of my 20 years, I feel like I've learned most of these lessons before, but I really wish I'd read this book when I was younger! This book gives a lot of great, straightforward advice that I think everyone should hear before they get into dating. The tips in the book are targeted toward women, but I think men could also learn a lot from this. In case you can't find the book or don't have the time to read it, I'll give you my thoughts and comments about the book's advice. I do recommend reading it for yourself, though. You'll be so glad you did.

Without further ado:

1. You have to love yourself first.

You have to love yourself before you're able to love other people. This is something I've had to learn in my life, and it's something that Dr. Laura stresses in her book. If you don't love yourself before getting into a relationship, you'll make all kinds of trouble! You can't go into a relationship expecting the other person to make you feel better about yourself. That's too much to ask of them. You need to have the confidence and esteem to deal with your own issues. This will protect you from getting into bad relationships and messing up good ones.

2. Life isn't about romance.

A lot of girls (myself included) could be labeled as "hopeless romantics." They're just dying for a handsome prince to come rescue them and make them live happily ever after. Yeah, that's not how it works. There's so much more to life than romantic relationships! Yes, dating and marriage are wonderful, amazing things, but not in the wrong context. If it isn't the right person at the right time, it isn't worth it. You have more purpose in your life than to be someone's "booty-call" (for lack of a better term). If you make relationships the only important thing in your life, you'll never be satisfied, and you'll never accomplish the things that matter most.

3. Sex doesn't always mean love.

In our culture (and even in Christian circles), sex can be blown way out of proportion. It is a wonderful, special thing, but it doesn't always mean what we want it to. Someone can be intimate and still be distant. If someone wants to sleep with you, he may not have marriage and a long-lasting, healthy relationship in his mind. Again, sex is very important and appropriate, but only in the right context. There are other ways to be (appropriately) intimate. Sex isn't the end-all-be-all of a relationship. Don't make that your end goal. A sexual relationship is just the beginning, not the end.

4. Don't blame men or society.

It is way too easy to push the blame for our bad decisions, mistakes, laziness, and fear onto someone else so we don't have to deal with it. Unfortunately, this doesn't fix the problem. The only person responsible for you is yourself; you can't blame anyone else. People and situations can negatively influence us, but that doesn't give us the right to sit around and ruin our own lives and point fingers at other people. Take responsibility for your own life!

5. You've only got one life.

It's so sad hearing stories of people ruining their lives; it's even worse when you realize that that could easily be you. We only get one chance to get things right, and so many of us blow it, not because we made mistakes in the past that we have to deal with the consequences of, but because we aren't properly dealing with those consequences. Don't settle for miserable; you don't have the time!

I will say for my fellow Christians out there that this isn't a Christian book. Her message isn't about waiting until marriage and honoring God with your relationships. With that in mind, I feel like her advice can be better than some advice that Christian girls get! It's great advice that works for anyone.

I hope you get to read this book sometime. I know I'm glad I did! My future children are definitely reading this.

Good luck!

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
Featured

Panic! At The Disco Announces Breakup After 19 Years

Band Makes Breakup Announcement Official: 'Will Be No More'

2462
panic at the disco

It's the end of an era. Originally formed in 2004 by friends in Las Vegas, Panic! At The Disco is no more.

Brendon Urie announced on Instagram that the band will be coming to an end after the upcoming Europe tour. He said that he and his wife are expecting a baby, and the life change weighed heavily in his mind to come to this decision. "Sometimes a journey must end for a new one to begin," he said.

Keep Reading... Show less
Content Inspiration

Top 3 Response Articles of This Week

Odyssey's response writer community is growing- read what our new writers have to say!

6169
https://www.pexels.com/photo/person-writing-on-white-book-1043514/
https://www.pexels.com/photo/person-typing-on-type...

Each week, more response writers are joining the Odyssey community. We're excited to spotlight their voices on as they engage in constructive dialogue with our community. Here are the top three response articles of last week:

Keep Reading... Show less
Featured

To Mom

There are days when you just need your mom

18010
To Mom

There really is no way to prepare yourself for the loss of someone. Imagine that someone being the one who carried you for 9th months in their belly, taught you how to walk, fought with you about little things that only a mother and daughter relationship could understand. You can have a countless number of father figures in your life, but really as my mom always said, " you only get one mom."

Keep Reading... Show less
Swoon

The Way People In Society are Dating is Why I Don't Date

I need someone to show that they want me for me, not that they're using me to chase the idea of being in a relationship.

20291
The Way People In Society are Dating is Why I Don't Date
rawpixel

You hear your phone go off. He's asking you to hang out. Then, of course, you get the advice of your friends to decipher this text. Is it just hanging out or is it more than hanging out? You've probably done this at least once in your life or at least seen a tweet where someone posted their screenshots with a potential love interest.

Keep Reading... Show less
Student Life

Winter Break As Told By 'Friends'

Is a month at home too much to handle?

12908

If you're anything like me, winter break is a much-needed light at the end of the tunnel after a long, stressful semester. Working hard for 15 weeks can really take a toll on a person mentally, physically AND emotionally. It's a nice change of pace to be back at home with your family and friends, but after a couple weeks, it can get, well... boring.

Keep Reading... Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments