19 Things I Learned In 19 Years

19 Things I Learned In 19 Years

College has only helped me put these lessons to use.

My birthday is right around the corner and it has been an interesting year. My life has changed a lot since beginning college, and I've had time to reflect on the bigger things in life. So, with that came a list of things I have learned over the years and the ones that were most important to me.

1. Always carry $20 hidden in your wallet.

You never know when it’s going to come in handy. It will get you that little bit of gas to take you where you need to go.

2. Leave the house dressed as if you'll run into someone.

Never, ever leave the house dressed as a slob. Saying to yourself, “I’m only going to Shoprite, nobody is going to see me,” does in fact put some bad Voodoo on yourself and you’ll see everyone from your kindergarten teacher to your former crush. Dress nicely when you leave the house.

3. Always try your best.

If you don’t try your best on an assignment or even in life then your results are not acceptable.

4. Find new friends that your old friends would like.

If your old friends who have known you since you were five do not like the new friends you’re making in college, it’s time to reevaluate. Thankfully I seem to have made some good decisions.

5. You can always call your parents.

Who else are you going to call at 11 a.m. on a Tuesday after you failed your first math test? The answer is nobody else.

6. Your mom is always your excuse.

My mom always told me that if I didn’t want to go out all I had to say was, “My mom won’t let me go.” I’ve used that one more than I care to admit.

7. Laughing is the cure for everything.

Even if you’re in your worst mood and you crack a smile it just seems to make everything better.

8. Your mom is always right.

She just always is. Don’t argue with it.

9. Springsteen is superior to Bon Jovi.

I don’t even think this one needs an explanation.

10. You should let your dad watch the Yankee game every once in awhile.

My poor dad watches any show that I want to. Some nights you just need to blend into the couch and let him relax.

11. A book is a great way to escape.

If you want to dive into a world that is not your own a book is a great way to do so. Always have on on hand.

12. Find people you can laugh with but also sit in silence for hours and not have it be awkward.

My best friends and I can laugh at the stupidest things, but we can sit in silence on the hammock in their backyard and talk about nothing and be content. You need a mixture of both in your life.

13. Wake up early every once in awhile.

You accomplish more things in the morning hours than you think you would.

14. You can become quick friends with anyone if they listen to one direction as well.

Something I have been learning for the last six years. The band just brings people together.

15. Friday’s call for chocolate ice cream.

The school weeks in college are tough. Why not end your week on a high note with some homemade ice cream?

16. The beach can solve all your problems.

If you sit there for long enough, the answers will come to you.

17. Giving compliments make all the difference.

Think of how good you feel when someone tells you they like your hair. Repay the favor every once in awhile.

18. Spend quality time with your family.

Having dinner every night with them or just texting each other random funny things are the best ways to stay connected.

19. Do things that make you happy.

Happiness is apart of life. If you don’t have you, try and find it.

These are just some of the things I have learned over the years that have made all the difference in life.

Cover Image Credit: Ariana Pelosci

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To All Incoming Freshmen, When You Get To College, Please Don't Be THAT Freshman

I am pretty sure we all know who I'm talking about.


As we are all counting down the days to return to campus, students are looking forward to meeting new people and reuniting with old friends. And then, there is the freshman.

We have all been there. The eagerness and excitement have been slowly building up through months of summer vacation, all waiting for this moment. I understand the anxiousness, enthusiasm, and insecurities. The opportunity to meet new people and explore a new area is very intriguing. But let's be real, you are here to make memories and get an education. So here are a few pieces of advice from a former college freshman.

1. Don't be that freshman who follows their significant other to college

This is the boy or girl who simply can not think for themselves. The 17-year-old puts their own personal goals and interests aside to sacrifice for a six-month high school relationship. This will more than likely end at an end of semester transfer after the relationship has been tested for a month or two in college life. So if you want to really enjoy your freshman year, make your own decisions and do what is best for you.

2. Don't be that freshman who lets their parents pick their major

"You are not going to school just to waste my money."

This is a statement you might have heard from your parents. As true as it might seem, this is definitely not a good way to start your college years. If you are not majoring in something you can see yourself doing, you are wasting your time. You can major in biology, go to medical school, and make the best grades. But if deep down you don't want to be a doctor, you will NOT end up being a good doctor. When it comes to picking your major, you really have to follow your heart.

3. Don't be that freshman who gets overwhelmed with the first taste of freedom

Yes. It is all very exciting. You don't have a curfew, you don't have rules, you don't have anyone constantly nagging you, but let's not get carried away. Don't be the freshman who gets a tattoo on the first night of living on your own. Don't be the freshman who tries to drink every liquor behind the bar. Don't be the freshman who gets caught up being someone that they aren't. My best advice would be to take things slow.

4. Don't be that freshman who starts school isolated in a relationship

I'm not telling you not to date anyone during your freshman year. I am saying to not cut yourself off from the rest of the world while you date someone. Your first year on campus is such an amazing opportunity to meet people, but people are constantly eager to start dating someone and then only spend time with that person.

Be the freshman who can manage time between friends and relationships.

5. Don't be that freshman who can't handle things on their own

It is your first year on your own. Yes, you still need help from your parents. But at this point, they should not be ordering your textbooks or buying your parking pass. If you need something for a club or for class, YOU should handle it. If you're having roommate problems, YOU should handle it, not your parents. This is the real world and college is a great time for you to start building up to be the person you want to be in the future, but you can't successfully do that if your parents still deal with every minor inconvenience for you.

6. Don't be that freshman who only talks to their high school friends

I know your high school was probably amazing, and you probably had the coolest people go there. However, I believe that college is a great time to be on your own and experience new things. Meeting new people and going to new places will allow you to grow into a more mature person. There is a way to balance meeting new friends and maintaining friendships with childhood friends, and I am sure you will find that balance.

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An Open Letter To My Youngest Self

From, the young adult finding comfort in the past while lost in the present.


Dear future big person,

Speaking from experience, the world is a crazy place. It's sad, yet exciting to know what the future holds for you. The world has been taken over by devices and electronics most never thought were possible.

If you're wondering why I'm writing to you, it's because I care a lot more now than I did back when I was you. I'm your Marty McFly, here to tell you how to prepare for the future. (Don't ask me what that reference is –you figure it out!).

For starters, let's talk about this technology thing. Gameboys, Nintendo DS', Wiis, Xboxes –don't mess with them. Television is fine –if the people from the Cold War survived it, we can, too. I want you to spend time enjoying the real world, not the electronic, fake one.

I want you to go outside and sit in the grass, pick those dandelions and mash them up into "paint." Paint mom something nice and maybe go for a bike ride with dad. Catch lightning bugs at dusk and bottle them all up in a mason jar. Eventually, let them free, all together.

Your brother is gross and weird, but he actually turns out to be a pretty cool kid. You don't have to be all mushy with him, but be sure he knows you love him. After all, he is family.

Make friends in the neighborhood, even if they are boys. So what? Challenge them. Race them on your bike with awesome purple and white streamers drifting from the handlebars. Push hard, through the soles of your Sketchers covered feet.

Pick up a piece of chalk and create a world of your own world with 3,000 Toys R Us stores, one police station, and only a few stop signs. Create and color your own flowers, whether they actually exist or not. Let your imagination run wild!

Turn on the radio and dance like crazy! Scream the lyrics to Smashmouth's "All Star" and Gwen Stefani's "Sweet Escape." Change the station every now and then to hear something new; it's always interesting to see your reactions to these interesting creations.

I want you to wear what you feel like and don't care what the others say about you. If you want to wear your purple dress-up shoes with your matching purse and hat, then do it. If you want to wear a Hula skirt in the dead of winter, do it (but please bring some leggings so mom doesn't flip out). If you want to wear those bedazzled jeans, then rock 'em.

If you're wondering why I'm telling you to do these silly things, it's only because we lost these traits along the way. I don't want you to miss the experiences that only come from the natural world because you had your head stuck in a tablet; it will all pass you in the blink of an eye.

I don't want you to ever feel trapped inside your house, no matter the weather. There is always a way out.

Don't let other people stop you from getting something you want. Don't let them intimidate you or talk you out of something you are passionate about.

Your friends will be the people you escape to when the house seems inescapable. Treat them the way you would like to be treated.

Your imagination is one of the greatest gifts you'll ever have. It drives you –your hopes and dreams, your wishes in the fountain and your kisses to the dandelions. Don't ever stop chasing them.

Always, always do what you want to do. You sing karaoke to that super catchy song because you know you'll kill it. Wear what you want however you want because you know that you look good in some strange way. (As long as you're not naked, that is). Stubbornness is good.

Your family will always be your family. What they do affects you, and vice versa. Bring them good, positive news. They don't need any more trouble.

Stand up for yourself, for your friends and family, for your beliefs and wishes. Be proud of the work you do and the life you live. Many people around you wish they could have lived like you did.

Most importantly, do not let your past define your future. A lot of things will happen, some of which may or may not go horribly wrong. There is nothing you can do to stop these things, except hope. You can always change for the better as long as you don't look back. Be proud of your past, but be known for your future –whatever you want that to be.

Please, promise me these things. I can't stress enough how important it is for you to never lose these traits –hold them tightly and never release them. I can't tell you how this life is going to go, because that simply isn't the way this world works. Just breathe through it and listen to your gut –that's the future guiding you.

I, and many others, love you –your character, your curls, your studded jeans,your pink Power Ranger costume, your Hello Kitty backpack, and your goofy smile.

Don't ever forget that.

With love,

The Girl Who Is Lost And Trying To Turn Back Time.

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