Having more is not the same as living a better life.

Having More Doesn't Always Mean Living Better

Living with purpose is far more important than the things you own or the followers you have.


As Henry David Thoreau once said, "The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation." This quote embodies the human nature and the way our kind thinks. There are thousands of interpretations of Thoreau's words, but I am delving into this; mankind always wants more. Whether it's a new car or a leaner physique, people are not known to be content. This is not to be confused with the beauty in growth and progress, but sometimes the phrase "Stop to smell the roses" is just a quote and nothing more.

What grabs me about this is that even in Thoreau's time, he realized humans' need for more. In his case, the wanting focused on social strata—having more friends or a better reputation, which is still applicable today. Social media has advanced our abilities to know people across the globe. Not only that, it makes us feel as if we know people we've never even met. For some, it is obvious that their intentions are to connect with those who once made an impact in their lives. High school friendships and neighbors no longer get lost within memories. And as this is the ideal reason anyone uses social media, it's not realistic for the majority. Popularity no longer dissipates with high school. The amount of followers one has or the number likes a picture receives is all proportional to the type of life you're living. It becomes easy to believe that because a post doesn't gain as many likes as someone else's, your life, the words you speak and the people you're friends with all mean less than someone who has a larger audience. And that simply isn't true.

As for other aspects of life, people tend to want more than what they currently have. It doesn't have to be a negative like Thoreau implies, but it does make most people crave more. As a population, there should be a focus on enough:eing enough and having enough; it's very important to feel adequate. In this era, there is a link between having more and living a better life. But it doesn't have to be that way. If we reflect on everything we are, we can idealize the life we want to lead.

Set aside the need for more. More attention online won't deepen your relationship with family. More possessions won't expand the warm memories you make. Facing the fact that most people think more, better allows us to realize that's not always true. Shifting the focus on what is important shifts the direction your life is headed. We can then say that we are enough, that we are living for purpose instead of power.

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10 Pieces Of Advice From My Parents That Have Helped Me Survive This Thing Called Life

I don't like admitting that they're right, but they've helped me through more than they'll ever know.


As I've entered my 20s and have made it halfway through college, I've learned that life can be hard and challenging at times. Like many kids, when I was growing up, I could care less about what my parent's advice or opinions were. Nine times out of ten, I would do the complete opposite of what they said. Once I got older and actually started listening to their advice and put it into perceptive, I learned that they're right more often than I'd like to admit.

1. Don't take things for granted

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I've learned to cherish what I have because I might not always have it. It's easy to take life itself and many things it involves for granted. They've taught me to take a step back from this crazy life sometimes and be grateful for all that I have.

2. Don't be afraid to put your heart on your sleeve


My parents have taught me that if you feel something, don't be afraid to say it or embrace it. If you love someone, then tell them. Don't be afraid to put your heart out there just because you might get hurt.

3. Be vulnerable

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In life, in relationships, in your work. Take risks, get shot down, and then try again. Being vulnerable is scary yet so powerful.

4. You can never have too many shoes


Otherwise known as it's okay to treat yourself. Life is hard, so take care of you. If that means going on a shopping spree every once in a while, then so be it.

5. You're going to be okay

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Whatever it is you're going through, you're going through it and you're going to come out on the other side. It may seem horrible now, but you'll learn from it and be okay in the end.

6. You have to have friends in life


It's important to have people to lean on, especially on your bad days, and to celebrate with on your good ones. You can't just have you or a significant other to rely on.

7. Never be afraid to share your opinion

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Don't be afraid to put your thoughts and opinions out there because they might be wrong. They could have a huge impact on someone or something.

8. Don't stress over things you have no control over

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Everyone is on their own path, which means everything will work out the way it's supposed to, even if it doesn't make sense right now. Again, you're going to be okay.

9. Happy, healthy, wealthy, wise


My dad always says if you tell yourself every day that you're happy with yourself or your life, you're healthy and strong, you're wealthy in love and surrounded by great people, and you're knowledgable or wise, then you can achieve anything in life.

10.  S*** or get off the pot

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My all-time favorite piece of advice. Making decisions can be hard and scary, especially if the outcome could be getting hurt in the end. So, you either make a decision and roll with it no matter the outcome or you walk away.

Thanks, mom and dad for always being a phone call away when I need it! Just know that your advice and words of wisdom don't go unnoticed. For others, your parents have been on this planet much longer than you have and most likely experienced the same situations that you're dealing with. They don't have all the answers, but they are there to help.

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