Since when is it morally acceptable to use someone’s generosity as a weapon against themselves? For example: Forgiving past relationships. When closure is found, it cannot be expected that something new will arise from such a conclusion to a past chapter in your life. Perhaps occasionally you might find yourself stumbling upon on a fond memory after having it triggered by something that meant much more in the past.
This should not mean that you are obligated to feel the same way, especially if there is a large gap in time between this memory and your current self. Not at all does this demonstrate that you are weak at heart, but once someone has been marked in your “story” or has caused a substantial stir in your life, sometimes there is no other way around the fond feelings of past experiences.
This becomes a problem is when your past relationships get in the way of your personal growth. Moving on is a tumultuous task that involves as much will-power as abstaining from your favorite chocolate chip cookie, retrospectively of course.
Since it is common to scratch at the past like a new scab, for example scrolling through old direct messages, texts, candid’s, and such, it can also be as equally painful to leave it as is because you know that there will always be a scar to take its place.
Nevertheless, this should not inhibit you from living your gosh-darn life. Only you have the power to either act on or let go of past relationships.
Perhaps you ended your past relationship with not enough closure to allow you to sleep sound at night, then you one day decide to do it…two years later. What does this ultimately mean? Maybe it can be assumed that in your heart, you still hold memories and emotions that no one can ever change, but this does not mean you must carry them around with you as your personal burden. If the relationship is over, it’s for a tangible reason.
Recall that not everything ends in a happily-ever-after scenario and you must learn to accept it for the simple reason that the perfect relationship doesn’t exist, and that is okay. What you should take with you, either from relationships or any other life experiences are the lessons learned.
And with these lessons, you will eventually find a happiness that no one can ever take away from you.