I know we all make plans for our lives. We think about how we want our perfect relationships with friends, family, or significant others. We plan the perfect education, the perfect job, the perfect house. We are humans, it is so natural to make these plans. We are told at a young age to make goals for ourselves. And don't get me wrong, goals are great. But what happens when we don't accomplish our goals? Or our plans don't pan out like we expected? No one ever teaches us how to handle these feelings. We are just taught to succeed. Failure is a part of life though and it is only normal to try and fail. It's how you handle this that defines what kind of person you are.
I have always been that person who envisions these perfect scenarios in my head and this amazing picture of how things would turn out. Except this was not always the case. I think I have failed more times than I have succeeded, but would have never been successful without these failures.
So my advice, let it go.
Learn to control the things you can control. Learn how to handle situations thrown your way. Learn how to accept failure and learn to move on.
Let go of every negative emotion that does not drive you to become more successful. We are our own worst critics. But we should love ourselves and give ourselves the credit we deserve because damn it, we are awesome!
Let go of every toxic person bringing you down. We all have those people in our lives that we expected more out of. Maybe it was a friend that has let you down, maybe it was a person you pictured spending your life with. Reality is, not everyone will fit this cookie cutter mold we have created in our minds, but there will never be room in your life for people who suck the happiness out of you. Let them go.
Let go of every situation you cannot control. Plans were made to be ruined. You make plans and life laughs at you because we know this is never how it is going to go. Instead of being down about something, learn from the experience and move on!
Let go of every grudge you have towards people. People suck. The sooner you realize you can't change a crappy person, the sooner you will have weight lifted off of your shoulders. You are not responsible for other people, but you are responsible for our own happiness. You can't change a person who does not want to change. The people who want to stay in your life, will reserve a spot in it.
We should all "feel" the emotions life throws at us but there is a huge difference between letting things define you and letting things empower you. Don't let the things we cannot solve become things that define you.
When something destroys the perfect picture in your head, just shrug, make a new game plan, and move on.
The sooner you learn to let it go, the sooner you will find happiness.
