How To Learn To Be OK With Being Alone

If You Never Learn How To Be OK With Being Alone, You Will Always Feel Lonely

We often know a lot about someone else but realize that we don't know enough about ourselves.


There is no doubt that loneliness is on the rise and it affects people of all ages. Though modern search engines may return millions of web pages in a fraction of a second, it doesn't seem to have a more realistic and practical solution for this matter. Phrases like "No one really cares about you," "Don't put yourself out there. You'll only be rejected," "No one ever understands you anyway," and many more versions of "S/he doesn't want you to ask her out" are becoming part of our daily conversations with both our friends and ourselves. The spiral of critical thoughts whirling through our minds damages our self-esteem and debilitates us from reaching any other individual.

In the United States, loneliness is presently at pestilence levels. A recent study on U.S. adults found that almost 50% of Americans feel lonely. Also, about 50 percent of respondents said they had in-person social connections consistently, and 50 percent said they once in a while or dependably feel that their relationships are not significant and that they're disconnected from others. Likewise, an ongoing national survey of adults 45+ demonstrated that more than 42 million individuals experience the ill effects of interminable depression, while study, as mentioned above, uncovered that youngsters of age 18-22 are far more likely than senior citizens to report being lonely and in poor health, making them the loneliest generation.

Unlike physically being alone from everyone else, loneliness is a feeling and a thought. It includes a way of seeing ourselves and our surroundings. We can feel desolate in a large cluster of social settings and conditions. If loneliness is a state of one's consciousness, would we be able to change our outlook to feel less lonely? I think we can by taking on our inner voice. Also, this voice makes us feel like we are extraordinary and undeserving. Frequently, when individuals feel their loneliest, they are primarily in the organization of this inward commentator. We often know a lot about someone else but realize that we don't know enough about ourselves. The crucial point is that you need to have the capacity to associate with yourself, comprehend your feelings, and explore your mind and that's how you start to be comfortable alone.

Connecting to other individuals might feel overwhelming when we're under the spell of your inner voice. So, the first step to combating our loneliness is to be a friend with yourself. We ought to embrace a frame of mind toward ourselves that we would reach out to any friend experiencing the same circumstances. It implies reacting to these voices with an increasingly consistent, positive, and merciful viewpoint. At last, it means finding a way to IGNORE its directives. When you take any step toward making a new connection is a step to debilitate your inner critic and change your point of view, not just toward the outside world, but toward yourselves. As I discussed in this article, don't let society or any individual pressure you to be something that you're not.

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

The world needs you.

You won't see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won't laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won't go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They'll miss you. They'll cry.

You won't fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won't get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won't be there to wipe away your mother's tears when she finds out that you're gone.

You won't be able to hug the ones that love you while they're waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won't be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won't find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won't celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won't turn another year older.

You will never see the places you've always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You'll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges, and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it's not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don't let today be the end.

You don't have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It's not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I'm sure you're no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won't do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you'll be fine." Because when they aren't, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline — 1-800-273-8255

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Why I Love Having Haters

Who doesn't love a hater?


With a colorful past of controversies, running my mouth, and criticism, I know haters better than most people. Haters gonna hate, right?

Well, some people take what haters say close to heart. Words hurt, especially when people are talking about you in a negative way, in person or through the internet. As much as I've hated haters as the next guy, there is one thing I have had to teach myself along the way. Love that you have haters. You might think I sound crazy, and I know I do. BUT just think, how does someone get haters? BY BREAKING THE STATUS QUO AND ATTEMPTING TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE.

I'm a pretty outspoken individual in case you haven't noticed already. From some articles that I have written, or words spoken on a podcast I formerly hosted. However, I will hold myself accountable because there were times I did cross the line in what was being said. But on the other hand, when I wasn't going too far, some of the haters were just hysterical.

A while back there was an Odyssey article I wrote titled "I am A Millennial and I Am Embarrassed of My Generation". When posted, I had a thread of about 300 comments saying that I am wrong, privileged and that I should go die. (Yes, my haters have gone as far as saying they are going to kill me for what I was saying.) While reading the threads, I couldn't help myself but laugh. I took these comments as a win because what I have done was making a difference in how people think. A lot of people agreed, and a lot of people disagreed. Someone even wrote a counter article against me telling me that I am a literal "piece of sh*t". Ha! That one might be my personal favorite.

From that article and so on I just kept writing about what I wanted to write about and creating what I wanted to create. I wasn't going to let some nobody tell me that I am "garbage". From working for what I have, standing up for myself, and not taking any more crap has accumulated some hateful followers. And in all honesty, I love it.

Don't go out of your way to get haters. Do what you have to do to better yourself and be successful. The haters will come, and that is just because they are jealous of you making a difference. Do your thing, love yourself, and let the haters hate.

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