As one of the greats
of our time, Janis Ian, once said, "There are two kinds of evil people in
this world. Those who do evil stuff and those who see evil stuff being done and
don't try to stop it." For the sake of my argument, let's say this evil
stuff is leading people on. Whether we have been the leaders or the
led, stringing people along is just plain wrong. There is nothing quite as
torturous as knowing that the person could not be up front with you about how
they felt, in the name of their own comfort or convenience.
There are all sorts
of being lied to in regards to how someone feels about you, but it really boils
down to two types: words without action and action without words. Words without
action is the blatant, and much more common way, where someone lies to your face,
telling you the things you want hear without any real intention of actually
doing those things. This person functions on weak excuses and
empty good intentions and you might just give them the benefit of
the doubt, at first.
The second type is, arguably, much worse. Action without words is subtle and so easily
overlooked. Unless you have experienced its anguish, firsthand, you may not
believe that it is so prevalent in our generation's dating culture.
Imagine this: a guy
and a girl are together and dating and the guy isn't 100 percent into it
anymore, so he talks to the girl about their relationship and how he doesn't
want to date anymore; he still cares about her, but he isn't completely into it
so he doesn't think it's right. After some discussion about the relationship,
there is no decision made, but both of them act like it never happened. The
guy's defense is, "She knows how I feel so I'm being honest with her." But is he really? No, he is not.
His words said one
thing, but his actions said something completely different. Boys, girls -- does not matter. Since the beginning of our existence, we have been taught one thing: actions speak louder than words.
My best friend described her last
relationship to me saying, "What am I supposed to believe when he says, repeatedly, that he doesn't want to be together, but acts like we've been in a
relationship for years? Then, turns around and acts like I'm the crazy one for
questioning him the next time he wants to break it off."
You may think you
are being honest and up front with someone by telling them how you feel, but unless you act upon those words, you are just as bad as the person who
does "evil stuff."
