As defined in Merriam Webster’s dictionary, "worth" is having monetary or material value. Everyone has worth, including the woman reading this. If you are like me, then you know we are all guilty of not knowing our self-worth. I am guilty of not knowing my worth, but once I found it I have been able to live a happier life. I got wrapped up in someone else defining my worth and was miserable. I allowed someone else to guide my life and I tried to please them instead of making myself happy. I found my self-worth through social media, my grades, and even the person I dated. I am here to tell you it is not ok to settle or think you are unworthy. You are worthy of having the world at your fingertips, but you need to realize it for yourself. If you do not know your self-worth, how can anyone else?
What matters is knowing your importance. Sometimes we get wrapped up in expectations people have for us or changing who we are because of a certain person. Be grounded in who you are and know your value is much more than what other people think. Stop allowing other people to define who you are. You are your own person with aspirations, goals, and plans. You are capable of pursuing your goals and finishing your dreams because you are worthy. Your self-worth is not found in someone else and it is certainly not found in anyone who thinks less of you. Your worth, your value, is solely based on you. You are the one who sets the scale of self being, no one else does. People will constantly try to tear you down and redefine your confidence. It is up to you to realize your worth means more than someone making you feel inadequate.
Trying to find your self-worth is difficult while you are in college. You are faced with people who will not like you. That does not say anything about you! Sometimes your personality is not going to click with everyone you meet. In college, we often struggle with finding our identity and get caught up in the idea that we are worthless. Realize you are not alone because everyone struggles with their confidence. Try to turn off the voices in your head that tell you, “You are not good enough” or “You will not pass this exam.” Instead of listening to the voices, start talking to yourself. Boost your self-confidence by reminding yourself how much you have accomplished in your life. It is easy to start falling into a trap of self-pity, but it is up to you to realize you are not defined by a failing grade or the voices in your head. Start living your life for yourself and not for others. Start building your self-confidence by living your life based around your happiness.
To all the ladies out there, you are worth more than the likes on your latest Instagram selfie and the favorites on your Twitter post. We need to stop comparing ourselves to others. You should not determine your importance based on who liked your photo or how many followers you have. Post the photo on Instagram because you want to, not because you think you will get 100 likes. Dress up for yourself, to boost your confidence, and not for the boy who sits in the front row. What other people think does not matter and it does not define who you are as a human being. Stop basing your life around others and do everything for yourself. Be content in your life and know you are beautiful, smart, and deserve happiness. The sooner we stop defining our self-worth based on social media and other people, the sooner we can become happier with our lives.
So, ladies, realize you are important! You are worth so much more than how you may feel on a daily basis. Stop thinking you aren’t good enough, because you are! Stop comparing yourself to others and strive to become the best version of yourself. You do you, and do not allow anyone to stop you from being happy. Remember you're worth it, and no one should tell you otherwise!
