Ladies, Don't Make Him Choose
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Ladies, Don't Make Him Choose

We all make choices, but in the end, our choices make us.

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Ladies, one thing you should never make a man do is choose because you should never have to. I strongly believe the right man will come into your life and immediately choose you. He will see what the other ones couldn't. He won’t worry about the boys nights, bar hopping or all-nighters that he’s potentially giving up by choosing you because he won’t see it as a loss, but as having you as a gain. He will choose you because he believes you are the one worth giving all of this up for and if he isn’t choosing you- he isn’t the one for you.

You should never make him choose between you and his freedom, nor should you force him to give the two of you a title. If it has to be forced is it really worth having? Should the person who supposedly is crazy about you really have to be forced to call you his girlfriend? If there are questions or doubts about whether his freedom or you are more important, don’t make him choose you. If you do, all there will be from him are feelings of bitterness or how unready he is for this next step you are forcing him to take, and it will end up leading to more fights and problems. You see if he has to question or wonder or choose between you and anything else- it is not you and you most definitely won’t be enough to satisfy him. The more you push for the title the more he will pull against it, and the more you want the less he will give. If you do finally get him to choose you he will constantly think of all the other things he had to give up because you made him choose you, and he will resent you and the relationship you two have. You will be a constant comparison to something he lost or gave up if you make him choose you.

Now, the last thing I am trying to say is that you should not want him to choose, or that you should not be chosen. I am saying that the type of man you want is someone who wants to choose you and not someone you have to force to commit to you or love you. It should come easily, and you should never have to question if you are enough, or ultimately why you are not enough, for him to choose you, because the answer is that you are enough. Actually, you are more than enough.

You are so much more than someone’s girlfriend; you are a priority, not an option. You are a choice, a choice that not everyone has. Not everyone gets the chance to love or be with someone as amazing, beautiful and kind as you- not everyone gets to choose you. So never force him to see the greatness that comes with you, because if he doesn’t- I promise, someone else surely will. Don’t force him to choose you if he doesn’t willingly want to, because there is someone who will choose you every single day, every single time without you having to ask them to do so. They will see what is in front of them, and never wonder if you are worth the sacrifices, because they will know you are.

Ladies, wait for the one who happily chooses you, every time.

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