There's a lot I wish I could tell my freshman self. I had no idea what I was doing, but honestly, no one else did either. One of my biggest concerns was, you guessed it, sorority recruitment. Since the beginning of my senior year of high school, this was all anyone talked about. My brain was swirling with information about the different houses' "stereotypes" and questions about what to wear or say. Maybe you can relate.

If you're going through recruitment this year, you don't need to stress over it. (Easier said than done, right?) I was so worried about having the right dresses and making sure I had the right answer to every question. Mostly, this was due to the fact that everyone seemed really nervous about it. The way that everyone else stressed out about recruitment somehow validated my stress. If you go in with confidence, it will not go unnoticed.

I wanted to say the right thing. I tore through Pinterest looking for articles on "What NOT To Say During Sorority Recruitment" or "Ten Ways to Not Get a Bid." I was hooked. I couldn't get over the fact that I was being judged based on very little information about me.

My nightmare was rejection. I was crushed when a house I loved didn't invite me back. I went back and dissected that conversation in my mind, kicking myself for saying the wrong thing. Don't let yourself fall into this. Getting cut from a house is not personal, even though it might feel like it. Every time I felt myself going down that path, I had to remind myself that it's just a sorority. That's all. You are not defined by your house. This process only gains as much importance in your life as you let it. Your identity is not reduced to a couple of Greek letters.

Recruitment can appear a little superficial. Is it a little over-the-top at times? Sure. It's supposed to be flashy- we want your attention. We want you to like us, just as much as you do. Ignore the process for a second. Pay attention to the people. I can tell you with confidence that this is all that matters. The people in that room will become your family. The people in that room will love you fiercely and unconditionally. If you don't feel that, you'll know.

After bid day, the people will be all that's left. Could you see yourself FaceTiming these girls when you're bored? What about being able to scream songs at the top of your lungs with them on car rides? How about having friends that you would do anything for? This is all I wanted, and I am so fortunate to have it in my life.

I know you'll have the same.