In today’s culture, hooking up with someone usually starts relationships. They'll meet at a party or social gathering, and one thing leads to another. However, is that really the best way to begin a relationship? Sure, it means that the couple is physically attracted to each other, but how do they know that they actually have a connection? They don't really know each other, and it’s impossible to fully understand a person just by dating them. In my opinion, it’s a lot better to get to know a person before anything physical happens. It makes it easier to decide whether or not there is a real connection.
In a way, it’s like beginning to date a friend. Most people would believe it’s an awful idea, but the difference here is that there is a mutual interest in dating each other. You aren't going in with the basis of just being friends. I can tell you from experience that it can be frustrating.You’ll begin to question whether the other person’s feelings are the same as yours and whether or not you still like him/her.This is usually when the communication is going far too well. When that happens, you just need to take a step back and relax. Think about how the person makes you feel. Think about whether or not the person laughs when they are with you. It’s the little things you need to think about. This doesn't mean you should start overthinking things. In a way, it’s so that you calm down and take a step back. Getting to know a person without the whole physical part can be exciting. You get to know their likes and dislikes and how he/she feels about certain topics. It allows you to realize whether or not the person is worth fighting for. You will not be confused by the physical attraction.
Physical attraction is usually the thing that gets in the way with the hook up culture. It leads to one person feeling something more than the other. This usually leads to drama and things falling apart. Is it really worth that? Sure, you can hope for the best and pray your love life ends up like the movies "Friends with Benefits" or "No Strings Attached." However, what’s the probability of that even happening? As cheesy as it may sound, it means so much more when things so simple, like your first kiss with the person, is special. Now I'm not saying that the first kiss needs to be epic. There is absolutely no need for fireworks and movie quotes. It can be as easy as watching a movie together or dropping the person off at their door. Just let it happen. What I'm saying is that it’s so much better when it’s not at a party with a room full of drunk people.
This all may seem stupid and out of the blue, but trust me, it is worth it. Sometimes all you have to do is wait for the time to be right. You both need to be ready. If you rush into things, it will most likely turn out to be a disaster. I mean, it’s like everybody says, "Good things come to those who wait."
