It has been a long year full of laughter, tears of both sadness and joy, and personal growth that I had no idea was possible.

Here is a list of 10 things I wish I knew going into my sophomore year that *most likely* could have helped me get through the year.

1. Focus on the things you can control.

You cannot control what happens to you or what has been thrown your way, but you can control your reaction. Make sure you think before you act, and never speak out of anger.

2. Not everyone is going to like you.

And that is okay. Usually, people dislike others out of jealousy, so just let it happen and keep doing you.

3. Do the reading.

More likely than not, your professor will give you a pop quiz on the reading, so suck it up, and do it.

4. A fraternity boy in a jersey does not justify your self-worth.

I know it is easy to get stuck in a web of sadness when a boy turns you down, but there is so much better out there, and quite honestly, you dodged a bullet.

5. It is okay to feel defeated sometimes.

College is not always going to be perfect. You’re going to get a few bad test grades, and you’re going to get in fights with people. Focus on everything that you have going for you, and try to build yourself up after something bad happens.

6. Enjoy every single second.

This is probably the most cliché thing on this list, but it is so true. Embrace every single moment, take lots of pictures, and whatever is thrown at you, enjoy it, because before you know it you’ll be packing up your 10 x 12 bedroom and headed home for another summer away.

7. Eat that, and don’t even second guess it.

No, that cheeseburger is not going to make you fat. Go out to eat with your friends and pig-out. Do not let your head talk you out of enjoying something delicious.

8. Whenever there is a choice between being right or being kind, always be kind.

At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter who was right, I promise you.

9. But on that note, don’t always bite your tongue.

Let your opinions be heard and do not be afraid of backlash. If what you are saying is justified, then speak your mind.

10. Say thank you.

Thank everyone and anyone around you. Your mom, dad, and sister for being your financial and emotional support system, your roommates for putting up with your antics, and your best friends who have been there for you no matter what. It has been a long year, and these people make it all possible for you to be here.