This month taught me a valuable thing about myself.

I am impatient

I am short tempered

I am an angry person.

But that’s not the lesson because I always knew I was those three things.

What I’ve learned is that I have complete control over those things. I have snapped, I have broken down and stepped out of character plenty of times but in this month alone I realized:

It wasn’t worth it.

Some people just want to be heard and they will do whatever it takes in order to get that point across. Even if that means hurting you or just your character. And that’s not the type of energy anyone needs to have around them. No one needs to hear that something they had no control over is their fault, or that they seem like they feel they are above someone because they want to do better for themselves.

That’s not fair. Everyone should want better for themselves as well as be willing to do what it takes to get there.

Regardless of what the situation is.

Bringing and keeping that type of person around does nothing but bring you down, then you start to think that that person is actually right, when really they’re just an envious parasite that wants to bring you down the hole of helplessness, because misery loves company.

Someone has to be the blame for their failure.

And you can’t change this person. You can’t change someone who doesn’t see an issue in their actions.

So you just cut the ties you have with them. It never does anybody any good to hold on to a broken relationship just because of past memories you’ve had with them or the hope that they have the capabilities to act and do better for themselves.

Stop letting people show you their true colors and then try to paint a better picture for them. If fact you have to learn to stop giving people like that attention.

“Don’t kill people with kindness because not everyone deserves your kindness.

Kill people with silence, because not everyone deserves your attention.”- anonymous

Let your silence be the reflection of you knowing how to be the bigger person. Don’t let yourself succumb to entertaining a narrow-minded person because they wanted to tarnish your name on social media over a complete misunderstanding. All that would do is show the world that you are just as immature as that person.

There are always two sides of a story. It’s understandable you want it to be heard, but never in a situation is it a good idea to try to explain yourself through social media or try to turn around and bash the person how they bashed you, it doesn’t make you look better, it makes you look weak and if people can see that a simple cowardice status can take you out of character then they’ll know that anything can take you down.

That’s why I had to keep telling myself it’s not worth me being angry over petty things; not every fight is worth the boxing gloves, I don’t owe anybody anything and I don’t have to explain anything to anybody.

Unless you’re my mother and father.