We've all heard those eleven jarring words before. Whether spoken directly to us or a close friend, hearing those words feels like the kiss of death for a budding romance; trampled on before its bloom. So many of us fall into the vicious trap of believing that whatever they are telling us is full of truth. That in one, two, or maybe three months they will finally be ready and all of our patient waiting will have been worth it. However, nine wasted months later we’re sadly greeted with empty promises and neglected dreams.
After seeing and experiencing too many broken hearts that were prefaced by those awful words, I decided a conversation needed to take place. We (myself included), are lying to ourselves if we believe that cowardly excuse any longer.
Image the person that fits inside this category for you. The guy or girl who has been leading you on for too long with the loose commitment that time will somehow ripen them enough to be with you. Now, image his or her dream crush walking through the door while you two are enjoying another platonic night together. If this perfect person walked up to your not-so-almost lover and asked them to go on a date that instant, would they say no? Of course not! They would grab their coat and leave immediately just to spend one night with the flawless idea of their dream crush. And if you, or I, were really what they wanted, they would do the same for us. They would never let the right person slip between their fingers because they needed time.
I’m sure there are a million excuses you’re making for them right now. I get it, nobody wants to feel like they have had the wool pulled over their eyes. But what is worse than being deceived, is to continuously live in deception out of fear of being alone. And that’s why we justify their actions. If we’re being honest, running around in circles with someone feels better than running around in circles alone.
And to this I whole-heartedly say:
We accept the love we think deserve. – "The Fault in Our Stars"
Although I’ve not met many of you personally, let’s be frank. You deserve more. You actually deserve way more. Whether you have never been told this or you have just refused to hear it, let me say, you are worthy of tangible love. You deserve to be wanted, chased, and fought for. Don’t let fear disable you from demanding more for yourself. Stop taking the bate. Stop devaluing your worth. You deserve more. Start demanding more.
What will happen to them once you've mustered up the courage to move on? I don't know. However, you have too much potential to wait around and find out.
