There are a few lines that come to mind when I think of my previous relationships.
“You’re great its just…”
“I really care about you but…”
“I’m not looking for a relationship right now, but I really enjoy spending time with you…”
I could go on, and on, but I think you get the gist.
And from a girl who has heard these lines many, many times, when he says them, RUN.
You will not change him from the player he currently is. He will not eventually fall for you. If he tells you he doesn’t want you, listen.
But I'm going to tell you something you don't want to hear.
There is no need to shame this boy for not wanting to date you. He is telling you the truth. You, however, are only listening to pieces of it. He probably really does think you're “great”, but that doesnt mean he’s going to take you out to dinner (he's more the "Netflix and Chill" type). He probably really does “care” about you, but that doesnt mean he’s going to want to date you. He probably really does enjoy spending time with you (hello hour makeout sessions), but that doesnt mean he wants to introduce you to his mom and dad.
If that’s not what you want, and he’s telling you it’s what he's looking for, why stick around? Don’t get caught up in what you think someone has the potential to be for you. Don’t try to turn someone into something they aren't.
If they aren't that into you, log back onto tinder and keep swiping right until you find someone that is.
You deserve that.
