It's a good day. Your make-up looks great, you've got on one of your best outfits, your hair is working with you. All in all, you look great. You feel it, too, walking down the streets with confidence in yourself. But, naturally, this all gets ruined when you're suddenly being hollered at and stared at like you're nothing more but an object, a piece of meat.

Every girl knows what I'm talking about because they've been through it. And the only thing that pisses me off more than that, is being told that because of the way I look and the way I dress, I have to, "Expect to be stared at and cat-called."

It's absolute bullshit.

I don't care that men can stare at whatever they want. They have no right to look at me like I'm not human, but just a sexual object for their pleasure, and then proceed to say crude things to me. I should be able to dress however I want. I should be able to wear whatever makeup I want. I should be allowed to look as sexy as I want without worry of having to deal with those annoying men who think I care that they think I'm pretty.

And hearing from people, especially other women, that this is the way the world is, and if you don't want to be treated like that then "look ugly," just pisses me off even more. Why are we constantly shaming women for looking good, or for wanting to look good? Why is it such an issue for a woman to put on her best outfit and dramatic makeup because she wants to look good for herself? Why is it that when she gets hollered at on the streets, she's the one being shamed for it?

We need to stop telling women that if they want to avoid being cat-called (and this also connects to victim blaming with many rape cases), on the streets they should not look so "pretty," and we need to start teaching men to respect women for the clothing/make-up choices they make. We need to stop telling women to limit themselves because "men can't control themselves," because yes, men can, and women shouldn't have to suffer because of these lazy "excuses."