Heart·break: /härtˌbrāk/—Broken heart, a metaphorical emotional pain or suffering experienced alongside great longing or loss.
To many, it seems odd or even sounds bogus to hear of a 19-year-old saying they have experienced heartbreak. But for a great deal of us- no matter our specific age- we can say we have had past relationships that unfortunately ended this way. And sometimes, they can leave a pretty big scar on us for quite some time. Whether the relationship lasted three years or only a few months, we as humans are bound to miss that person that was once such a big part of our life.
Missing that specific person from your past can bring up very mixed emotions. It can bring back the heartbreak you once felt, the sadness, the anger, and the hopelessness of ever finding someone to care that much about again. But missing someone can also remind you of the happy times, the memories created with this person. Looking back, sometimes you wish you could rewind time…but inevitably knowing you can’t.
We are often told by our friends and family that after a breakup, we should block that person from our mind, from our memory, and from our lives- as if to try to heal the gaping wound. Of course, that may work for some people, but eventually, we all have to deal with the heavy weight put on our shoulders and heart by this person. Although missing someone can be a whirlwind of feelings, there comes a time- sooner or later, depending on each person- that you begin to accept the past.
Eventually, you will begin to realize that there is nothing wrong with missing someone you once had such a close connection with, and there's no need to feel about for missing someone.
As Nathan Scott from "One Tree Hill" once said, “If you miss someone, that means you’re lucky, it means you had someone special in your life, someone worth missing.” Whatever happened in the past, whether it ended badly, whether you wish your heart would hate the person like your mind does some days; you know the reason for missing them is a good one, because you cared for them and possibly loved them too.
At the end of the day, we’re all meant to cross paths with the ones we do, and whether good or bad, they all serve a purpose. So don’t hate yourself for wondering how they’re doing or for looking back at old pictures and smiling at the memories you made. As a growing individual, you needed that to become who you are now and who you will be in the future.
"People grow through experience if they meet life honestly and courageously. This is how character is built," Eleanor Roosevelt.
