It's OK To Fail In College

It's OK To Fail In College

C's may get degrees, but failing makes you succeed.
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Every college student has heard the phrase "C's get degrees." It is a completely true statement because honestly you just have to get a C or above to stay in a good grade range with your school. Even though C's may get degrees, it's OK to fail. It's OK to fail because sometimes we need to. It's OK to hit rock bottom to figure out where you need to start your life and to discover who you are. It's OK to not be OK, but it's not OK to stay that way. Looking back at the past couple of sentences I just typed, I realized that I put "it's OK" a little too much.

Which leads me to my next point of how you're going to have repeats in college leaving you to think that everything is going to just explode in your mind and you are not going to know what to do. Some repeats are really good, like A's and B's, while some repeats are really bad, like the hangover you have each Friday morning. The thing is, that we have to learn from these repeats and we have to realize that it will be, well, OK.

When I came up with the topic for this article, I didn't want to focus on grades at all really. I wanted to focus more on the fact that at some point in your college career, you are going to be in a place where all you hear is "it's going to be OK," whether that be listening to someone tell you that daily whenever you have a mental breakdown (something we all know a little too well) or when you have to keep reminding yourself that life goes on. For me, my "it's OK" period lasted a whole semester when all I was being told was that it would be OK. That phrase irked my nerves more than any other phrase in the whole world. I was tired of hearing how "it was going to be OK" because I had hit rock bottom and knew that at that moment, nothing was OK.

I was stuck in this mindset that everything was awful and that my life was a huge mess that would never get better. The mindset I had was just a big fat lie. I realized that in college, I am going to fail. I am going to fail tests, quizzes, and homework assignments, some that I studied for and some that I was clueless about. I was going to fail as a leader at some points and disappoint some people along the way. The thing is, that's what college is for! If I never realized what it was like to fail, then I would never know what it's like to succeed. I would never know how good it felt to get good grades or to resist a certain temptation that I had been struggling with.

My point in this whole article is that it will be OK. Right now it may feel like your world is falling apart, and I don't know what you're struggling with or what is on your mind every second of every day. What I do know is that it honestly will be OK. College teaches you how to fail and how to succeed in every aspect of your life. We learn how to improve from mistakes on tests as well as improving from mistakes in relationships with our friends and parents. College is not four years to focus only on school; it is four years that will break you down just to build you back up stronger than ever. For me, I'm thankful for my failures. I'm thankful for falling flat on my face so that I may rise stronger than ever while overcoming every obstacle in my way.

So next time you get an F on a test or your boyfriend breaks up with you, just remember, it's going to be OK. Everything is a learning experience and it's OK to fail.

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A Senior's Last Week Of High School

The bittersweet end.
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Well, this is it. This is what we've worked so hard the last four years - who am I kidding - basically what seems like our whole lives for. This is the very last week we will set foot as a student in our high school's hallways. As most schools are getting ready to set their seniors free at last, it all begins to set in - the excitement, the anxiousness, and also the sentiment and nostalgia.

For seniors, the years since our first day as a freshman at the bottom of the high school totem pole have seemed endless, but as we look back on these last few weeks, we realize that this year in particular has gone by extraordinarily fast. It was just yesterday that we were sitting in our classrooms for the very first time, going to our 'last first' practice, and getting our first taste of the (very real) "senioritis". With all that's going on in our lives right now, from sports and clubs, finals, and the sought after graduation ceremony, it's hard to really sit down and think about how our lives are all about to become drastically different. For some it's moving out, and for some it's just the thought of not seeing your best friend on the way to fourth period English; either way, the feels are real. We are all in a tug of war with the emotions going on inside of us; everything is changing - we're ready, but we're not.

THE GOOD. Our lives are about to begin! There is a constant whirlwind of excitement. Senior awards, getting out of school early, parties, and of course Graduation. We are about to be thrust into a world of all new things and new people. Calling our own shots and having the freedom we have so desperately desired since the teenage years began is right around the corner. Maybe the best part is being able to use these new things surrounding you to grow and open your mind and even your heart to ideas you never could before. We get the chance to sink or swim, become our own person, and really begin to find ourselves.

Things we don't even know yet are in the works with new people we haven't even met yet. These friendships we find will be the ones to last us a lifetime. The adventures we experience will transform into the advice we tell our own children and will become the old tales we pass down to our grandkids when they come to visit on the weekends. We will probably hate the all night study sessions, the intensity of finals week, and the overpowering stress and panic of school in general, just like we did in high school... But it will all be worth it for the memories we make that will outlive the stress of that paper due in that class you absolutely hate. As we leave high school, remember what all the parents, teachers, coaches, and mentors are telling you - this are the best times of our lives!

THE BAD. The sentimental emotions are setting in. We're crying, siblings are tearing up, and parents are full-out bawling. On that first day, we never expected the school year to speed by the way it did. Suddenly everything is coming to an end. Our favorite teachers aren't going to be down the hall anymore, our best friends probably won't share a class with us, we won't be coming home to eat dinner with our families...

We all said we wanted to get out of this place, we couldn't wait, we were ready to be on our own; we all said we wouldn't be "so emotional" when the time came, but yet here we are, wishing we could play one more football game with our team or taking the time to make sure we remember the class we liked the most or the person that has made us laugh even when we were so stressed we could cry these past few years. Take the time to hug your parents these last few months. Memorize the facial expressions of your little sister or brother. Remember the sound of your dad coming home from work. These little things we take for granted every day will soon just be the things we tell our college roommate when they ask about where we're from. As much as we've wanted to get out of our house and our school, we never thought it would break our heart as much as it did. We are all beginning to realize that everything we have is about to be gone.

Growing up is scary, but it can also be fun. As we take the last few steps in the hallways of our school, take it all in. Remember, it's okay to be happy; it's okay to be totally excited. But also remember it's okay to be sad. It's okay to be sentimental. It's okay to be scared, too. It's okay to feel all these confusing emotions that we are feeling. The best thing about the bittersweet end to our high school years is that we are finally slowing down our busy lives enough to remember the happy memories.

Try not to get annoyed when your mom starts showing your baby pictures to everyone she sees, or when your dad starts getting aggravated when you talk about moving out and into your new dorm. They're coping with the same emotions we are. Walk through the halls remembering the classes you loved and the classes you hated. Think of the all great times that have happened in our high school years and the friends that have been made that will never be forgotten. We all say we hated school, but we really didn't. Everything is about to change; that's a happy thing, and a sad thing. We all just have to embrace it! We're ready, but we're not...

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