To The Person That Is Always Strong, It's OK To Not Be OK

To The Person That Is Always Strong, It's OK To Not Be OK

Just know that emotion is not weakness. Emotion is the beginning to strength.
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There used to be a time in my life where every little thing I said and did was negative. Every word that came out of my mouth was negative. I was sad all the time, and frankly, people got sick of hanging out with me. I didn't even realize this until one of my friends actually told me this to my face. I changed my outlook on life completely.

Since then, I have become one of the most stubborn people when it comes to sharing my emotions and feelings. I don't mean that in a bad way, though; I'm good at finding the positives in every situation and I'm always happy around my friends. I want to be known as the person that picks everyone up with my high energy and happiness. I never want people to feel negativity radiating from me like they had in the past.

I now just learn to tuck away my emotions, and stay strong 24/7.

It was hard at first, to bite my tongue all the time and push away any moment of anger or sadness I felt. I shared my feelings only with my closest friend and my family. Other than that, all people saw each day was a happy, care-free person.

Well, there are many downsides with this, as most of you may know, but the only side affect that has really come back to bite me in the butt is when you just can't handle it anymore. One day, after holding in the bad for so long, you explode, and that's no fun for anyone.

Stubborn me had one of those days recently. Well, sort of. I was having a day where everything was going wrong... and I mean everything. I had been texting my best friend throughout the day about all the terrible things happening, but my immediate response each time was, "I'm fine, I'll be fine!"

Joke was on me, because I clearly wasn't.

Later that night, my friend got mad at me. Mad at me not because I had said or done something to him, but mad because I wasn't being honest with myself.

He sent me this:

"You're tough, but even the toughest people in the world break down for a little bit and let themselves feel sad and angry. Doesn't make you less of a person."

He was right. Having feelings, being raw and emotional isn't a bad thing. Being strong 24/7 is great, but being honest with yourself that you may be having a bad day is important, too. You need to find a happy medium.

So, the whole moral of this article is that if you find yourself hiding your emotions, being strong even when you don't think you can be, and telling yourself "I'm fine" 24/7, understand that it is OK not be OK. It's OK to cry. It's OK to let it all out. It's OK to be upset or angry. Allow yourself to feel every part of yourself. Be in touch with your emotions. Like my friend said, it doesn't make you less of a person.

Just remember that emotion is not weakness. Emotion is the beginning to strength.

Cover Image Credit: Emily Gigliotti

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.
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When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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Summer And Jobs

Working summers doesn't have to be tedious.

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Like many other college students, I was ready for summer but was kinda bummed that I had to work. Its not that I didn't like where I was working, I actually was really lucky to be working in a hospital environment but I just hated being alone all summer from 9-5. I've had this job for a few years now and a few other paid interns came and went but I never really connected with any of them. This year is different though.

I got really lucky to have another intern work with me that was very similar to me. The tasks we got were always simple but they were made to be more fun because I got to do them while talking with someone else. Now I actually enjoy and look forward to going to work.

The key to finding a good job is finding one that you enjoy doing and one that will help you gain knowledge that will help you out with future career plans. Working with friends also make tasks enjoyable! I would be careful with working with your friend however because if your job needs you to be serious and focused, being around your best friends may distract you from that.

Another thing that definitely makes summer jobs more enjoyable are taking breaks! It is your summer vacation after all! I'm not saying don't take a day off just to sit around, but if you make plans with family and friends, take a Friday off and enjoy the warm weather and good company! Employers understand that us college students and on break and have lives, they are usually very lenient with days off!

If you have to do a summer job to make money to live off of or pay for college, the best thing to do is look at the big picture. If you don't enjoy your job but can't afford to quit, remember that the money if going to help you out a lot. Also, this job is probably only for the summer right? So it's not permanent my friend! Get through these annoying few weeks and you will be back at college, taking steps for a bigger and brighter future.

Summer jobs are tough, I know, but make the most of it! And don't forget to enjoy it whenever you can!!!

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