We all have skeletons in our closets, but we grab the clothes next to those skeletons, get dressed, and go on with our day.
There are boys that we regret, beat ourselves up that we let them into a place that is so personal for us. There are boys that we see in public and act like you are texting someone even though you starring at a blank screen to act like you don't see him. His presence hurts your stomach, makes your heart beat 10 times faster, and heats your skin to think you are going to start seeping through all layers of your clothing.
We are not branded by the choices that we make. No matter what we do, if we choose we want different. We can make the choice right in that very moment.
You are the only one that has to account for your choices, but it is hard to live our lives with negative chatter in the back round.
It is not our job to make sure girls are labeled as the slut that you think you see. Her choices are not your choices.
To the girl that likes a girl"s photo, comments "slay girl" with the heart eyes, then seconds later screenshots her photo. And makes this girl's photo the topic of conversation in her group chat with her friends.
Screaming the annoyance of how she looks like a slut, and what is she trying to say with that picture. What if there is no underlying meaning by her posting a picture with her butt sticking out. Maybe it is as simple as she loves her body and she wanted to post it. We could just leave it at that statement, but we have put ourselves in a high spot believing that our opinions are needed and helpful.
Just because our morals, views on our bodies and loves do not measure up to the people around us. Does not automatically put anyone at a higher or lower position. We need to understand that every walk of life, point of view, and goal for love is different but we need to see these point of views as beautiful learning experiences, instead of an opportunity to shame a girl for the choices she has made.
There are girls that are waiting to be with the one till they are married, there are girls that have done things that we could never see ourselves doing, and there are girls in between. But if you are one of these girls, your walk is different from others. It is our job to love, not to shame. We should try to understand, and if you are unable of understanding, keep the opinions on lock down. Because the negativity is not helping anyone live an easier life.
