It's Always Worth Fighting For Your Best Friend

It's Always Worth Fighting For Your Best Friend

Friendships are hard to keep, but it is worth the fight.

For most people, college is the time to meet your best friend. You meet the person you can lean on during late nights or the person you want to talk to when something doesn't go as planned. You meet the perfect person that fits right into your world.

However, college is also the most difficult time to keep your friendships alive. You're very busy and life simply gets in the way. Friendships, especially the real ones, are worth the fight and the stress.

When I came to college, I knew I needed to find my best friend. I needed to find the person I could lean on in my darkest times or someone who I could share the good with. I did not have that person going into college, but I found her very quickly. I found someone just like me in every way. Countless times, we've texted each other at the same time without even knowing it. We realize every day that we are the same person. It's like we were meant to be best friends.

I did not expect to find her as fast as I did. I thought I'd never find my best friend, so when I did, I wanted to never let go. Then college happened and life got in the way, and somehow, I found that it just did not feel the same. We rarely ever see each other outside of class and our conversations are short and not as meaningful as they used to be.

Realizing this, I do not want to accept the fact that I am losing my best friend. We experienced our first year of college together, we visited each other over the summer, and I tell her everything. I am not ready to lose that person in my life. I realize that it takes extra work, but that's OK. I need my best friend by my side.

Friendships are hard in college because you have different classes, different things going on, and different work schedules. Things do not line up like they did in high school. You are living two completely different lives. If you have time to hang out, you are super tired and you want to do nothing except sleep. Either that or you have no time to hang out. There is no in-between. You're either free and sleeping or doing your own thing.This is something I have struggled with since starting college. It is hard realizing that people do not always have time for you and even when they want to, it is just not always possible.

Regardless, fighting for this friendship is definitely worth it. It is worth the nights lacking sleep because I worry too much and the days where I am afraid to text her because I am scared of not getting a reply. If it wasn't worth it, why would I be her friend in the first place? There would be no reason to continue the friendship. There would be no purpose — no value. I see the purpose — the value — in our friendship. Therefore I will always fight.

It may take time. it takes time to realize that there is any distance in the first place. It is important to talk about your feelings and tell your best friend you feel like there is distance. Odds are, they feel the same way. Someone has to speak up. Someone has to save the friendship. You'll be happier in the end because you both know what you need from each other and you can both work to fix the problems.

I will always fight for the friendships that mean something to me. I never see it as a waste of my time and I will never give up simply because life or college got in the way. That is no reason to lose a friend. My best friend is worth my tears, my worry, and my time.

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A Letter To My Best Friend On Valentine's Day

Because you are my ultimate Valentine.

To my beautiful best friend,

Warning: This letter is about to get extremely cheesy. I am talking four cheese lasagna cheesy. But no one deserves a love letter like this more than you do.

This Valentine’s Day, I want to express my love for you. On this wondrous occasion with which most people express their love to their significant other, I want to tell you, my best friend, how much I cherish our friendship.

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You are the ultimate love of my life. Boys have come and gone but you remain a constant; for that I am grateful. You have been there for me when my family could not be; for that I am grateful. You have been my backbone, my rock, and all those other clichés people use to describe the people they care about, and yet you have been so much more than that as well; for that I am grateful.

All my love this Valentine’s Day goes out to you, my friend, because you do not receive it enough. You have picked me up out of the dirt, brushed me off, and kissed my wounds more times than I can count, and I will never be able to thank you enough for that, but I am sure am going to try.

Thank you for the midnight cries. Thank you for the midnight laughs. Thank you for ordering way too much food with me and still just eating it all. Thank you for the advice, both solicited and unsolicited. Thank you for telling me what I need to hear, even when it isn’t what I want to hear. Thank you for the silly pictures. Thank you for the stupid inside jokes. Thank you for making bad decisions with me. Thank you for laughing with me and laughing at me. Thank you for the endless memories.

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More than anything, I want you to know that I love you. I love you. You are the family I get to choose, the one I go to when I have nowhere else to turn. You are the one I know I can always run to, whether we saw each other yesterday or haven’t seen each other in a year. You have played a part in molding who I am as a person, and I am so grateful for having such an amazing person affecting my life in such a positive way.

With all the love in my heart,

Your friend
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To My Best Friend At A Rival University

No amount of school rivalry could ever change our friendship.


In high school, we were practically inseparable- you and I and all of our friends. Even though we saw each other every day during the week (when both of us decided to actually go to school, at least; senioritis was real and it was rough), we usually saw each other at least once over the weekend, whether it be a coffee date at Starbucks, a sleepover, or a trip to the movies.

We would go on spontaneous trips to the local ice cream shop (for us, it was Twistee Treat) far too often for our own good. We spent so many summer days at theme parks, followed by sleepovers that consisted of painting each other's nails, baking break-and-bake cookies, and falling asleep in the middle of 'Men in Black.'

Now, we attend rival universities. The stories we share involve names and places foreign to the other. We each have friends that know us apart from one another. Some days, we hardly get a moment to talk, other than sending funny memes back and forth through Instagram.

Though it may seem like being away at rival schools would hurt our friendship, I think it's only made us closer.

When I come to visit you (or you visit me), we always make the most of our time, knowing that it's limited. We often do the same things we would've done at home, but in new locations, which makes it even more fun. Sometimes, I wish we would've chosen the same school- because having your best friend with you, sharing new experiences is always better than not- but I know we're each happy where we are. We're making new friends and new memories, which makes for new stories to share with one another.

I know that I can share anything with you without fear of judgment, and I think you know the same.

Even though we can't just stop by unannounced anymore, planning weekend trips to visit one another is still really fun.

Sure, we go to rival universities and we will never agree on whose school is superior, but in the grand scheme, it doesn't even matter. Your school is extremely lucky to have you and in my eyes, you are what makes it great.

No matter the distance, no matter how strong the rivalry between our schools, you will always be my best friend and the memories we've cultivated throughout our friendship will never be forgotten. I can't promise I'll wear your school colors again (that was a one-time thing and does not diminish my love and respect for my school!), but I can promise that you'll always have a friend in me.

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