Internet: The Love Expert
Start writing a post
Relationships

Internet: The Love Expert

More Love Guru Wisdom from the Internet

39
Internet: The Love Expert
Wikimedia.org

In my previous article, I discussed what love is according to philosophy as well as the various types of love from Greek theory. In that article the best I could conclude from the various forms of thought is that love, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder or at least its expression is. Love is not just feelings, emotions, a mood, a mindset, or actions, it is all of them. It is mental, physical and spiritual. In this article, I will discuss where most of the Greek thought of love comes from as well as modern theory on love and what it is. The next article in the series will concentrate on the science of love and the top researcher trying to resolve the enigma of passion.

Plato and His Colleagues

Much of the Greek theory on love can be chased back to Plato and his pupil Aristotle. Plato's most credible theory is the estimate of “platonic love” or passion between friends, a non-sexual relationship. Plato’s theory is relevant today in explaining why we hold such a high divorce rate. He proposes that “we expect a lot from the sexual passion we call love, but usually end up disappointed when the romance goes away”. Plato taught that “love is our search for our alter ego, that part of us that will make us whole again”. This is also where the idea of Soulmates in Greek thought comes from. He explains that “each of us is only half of himself or herself, searching relentlessly for completion”. Socrates’ adds to this later by proposing that “we don’t yearn for the half or the whole unless it is good”. Therefore, “when we love something, we are really seeking to possess the goodness which is in it”. With this understanding, we get Plato’s definition of love, which is “the perpetual possession of the good”. Plato even gives a guide on falling in love step by step starting with the recognition of physical attraction or desire, recognition of what is attractive and causing the desire, and recognition of the beauty of the soul. The process also includes the recognition of morals and ethics, seeking philosophical understanding and knowledge of what is going on, and finally the beauty of the object of your affection transcending the physical into something everlasting. There is much more to this theory, but I have outlined the basics for further reading simple consult Google with the term “Symposium”.

Modern Theory

The most notable modern theory on love comes from Robert Sternberg. Robert Sternberg came up with the triangular theory of love. The triangular theory is based on the proposal that love is made up of three components: intimacy, passion, and commitment. This theory takes from the Greeks in that there are different forms of love, and the combination of any two of the mentioned components makes these various forms of love, as well as each component itself, a form of love. Intimacy is friendship, passion is infatuation or “love at first sight”, and commitment is empty love. Intimacy and passion together make romantic love. Intimacy and commitment make companionate love or the love typically found in marriages. Passion and commitment make fatuous love, which is a mixture of both romantic love and companionate love. The fourth and most complete form of love is the combination of intimacy, passion, and commitment. None of these forms of love are permanent and can shift from one to another throughout the course of a relationship.

This concludes the second article in this series. Please look for the third, which will cover the science of love.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
Featured

Ford Cars That We Love

There's a good chance we've all driven a Ford or spent a lot of time at Ford, but what are some of the best cars they've ever made?

10807
Ford Cars That We Love
Photo by Jessy Smith on Unsplash

There are arguably few bigger automakers than Ford. They are a company that shaped the auto industry as we know it today and with a solid reputation in the industry, our wide range of Ford leases has always been a popular choice among drivers.

Keep Reading... Show less
Featured

Prose: One Call

What if you had one call, but you could not say anything other than what you were told to say? In this short excerpt, Bethany finds herself at odds with her jailers and with the one she was told to call, the one she loves. What would you do when the conversation takes a turn off script?

9147
Prose: One Call
https://unsplash.com/s/photos/jail

With each incessant numbing ring of the phone call, I could feel the betrayal coiling around me like the phone line, squeezing me tighter.

Keep Reading... Show less
Featured

'Hotel Transylvania: Transformania' Film Review

Solid animation can't raise the newest entry in Sony's colorful monster series beyond the basics

72537
'Hotel Transylvania: Transformania' Film Review
Photo Credit: Amazon Prime Video – YouTube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6suJohjIvfo

I take a slight issue with the idea that Adam Sandler didn’t have a good dramatic role until ‘Uncut Gems,’ what about ‘Hotel Transylvania’ (he says semi-seriously)?’

Keep Reading... Show less
Featured

4 Common Reasons Couples Get Divorced

Are some people just not meant to be together? Is there any way to prevent an impending divorce?

93899
4 Common Reasons Couples Get Divorced

We've all heard the statistics. Roughly 50% of married couples eventually end up divorced. This can lead to complications, problems with your children, financial issues, and no small amount of negative emotions.

Keep Reading... Show less
Featured

​Pets are Good for the Soul

Millions of Americans have found comfort in pet ownership. The media has been awash with stories about a surge in pet ownership, as Americans have taken advantage of the ability of pets to improve emotional well-being.

85923
Good for the Soul
Pets are Good for the Soul

America is going through a mental health crisis. This crisis predates the global pandemic, but has in many ways been dramatically exacerbated by it. In 2019, 19.86% of adults, or 50 million Americans, reported suffering from a mental illness. The emotional toll of the pandemic has been heavy, with over half of U.S. adults saying that they have experienced stress and worry related to Covid-19. Anxieties over work, uncertainty about the future and other triggers have intensified the mental health crisis. Millions of Americans have found comfort in pet ownership. The media has been awash with stories about a surge in pet ownership, as Americans have taken advantage of the ability of pets to improve emotional well-being.

Keep Reading... Show less
Facebook Comments