Insecurities...We All Have Them

Insecurities...We All Have Them

Don't let your insecurities own you, own them.


Long hair. Short hair. Thick. Skinny. Tall. Short. Smart. Dumb. Pretty. Ugly. Handsome. Athletic. Clumsy. Rich. Poor. The list goes on forever...

All these insecurities float around in our mind's every day. They bounce around like a marble in a shoe box, rolling back and forth with nowhere to escape.

We sit for hours at night wondering why we were the chosen ones for our personal insecurities. Why were we picked? Why us? Why me? Why, why, why.

Frustrating nights. Frustrating jealousy. Frustrating situations. Frustrating is an understatement!

They define who we are. They offer individuality. Even the bad ones have a deeper meaning behind them.

It is easy to get swept up in all the stereotypes, but being self-aware and being able to be confident in your own skin is KEY.

We have to overcome them in our own way.

You are smart.

You are funny.

You are beautiful.

You are handsome.

You are athletic.

You are amazing.

You are you.

Do not second guess yourself when you look at your insecurities in the mirror. Face them. Own them.

As Vin Diesel says, "It's insecurity that is always chasing you and standing in the way of your dreams."

Personally, I have learned the importance of individuality entering college. When you're applying to colleges with hundreds of other people, you must stick out in your own way. If we did not have those insecurities, we would not stick out.

The beauty of insecurities can actually pave the way to amazing things. Blog posts sharing your personal life experiences can influence others and create a huge following.

Hearing millionaires discuss the start of their path can show different insecurities they may have faced over time.

Insecurities may haunt us and keep us worrying, but through and through we build off them. Different companies for different careers pick different employees based on those insecurities. Different sports teams have different athletes with different insecurities. Different actors and actresses are chosen in movies have a variety of insecurities.

The point of this all is that insecurities are something that we ALL have. They are something we may or may not be able to control, but something that stands out. For the good or for the bad, these insecurities are like punching bags to life. We need to knock them down to move forward.

Next time you feel that your insecurity is stopping you from being your best, realize it is actually helping you stand out.

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PSA: Keep Your Body-Negative Opinions Away From Little Girls This Summer

But our own baggage shouldn't be shoved on to those we surround ourselves with.


It's officially swimsuit season, y'all.

The temperature is rising, the sun is bright and shining, and a trip to the beach couldn't look more appealing than it does right now. This is the time of year that many of us have been rather impatiently waiting for. It's also the time of year that a lot of us feel our most self-conscious.

I could take the time to remind you that every body is a bikini body. I could type out how everyone is stunning in their own unique way and that no one should feel the need to conform to a certain standard of beauty to feel beautiful, male or female. I could sit here and tell you that the measurement of your waistline is not a reflection of your worth. I completely believe every single one of these things.

Hell, I've shared these exact thoughts more times than I can count. This time around, however, I'm not going to say all these things. Instead, I'm begging you to push your insecurities to the side and fake some confidence in yourself when you're in front of others.


Because our negative self-image is toxic and contagious and we're spreading this negative thinking on to others.

We're all guilty of this, we're with family or a friend and we make a nasty comment about some aspect of our appearance, not even giving a single thought to the impact our words have on the person with us. You might think that it shouldn't bother them- after all, we're not saying anything bad about them! We're just expressing our feelings about something we dislike about ourselves. While I agree that having conversations about our insecurities and feelings are important for our mental and emotional health, there is a proper and improper way of doing it. An open conversation can leave room for growth, acceptance, understanding, and healing. Making a rude or disheartening remark about yourself is destructive not only to yourself, but it will make the person you are saying these things around question their own self worth or body image by comparing themselves to you.

My little sister thinks she's "fat." She doesn't like how she looks. To use her own words, she thinks she's "too chubby" and that she "looks bad in everything."

She's 12 years old.

Do you want to know why she has this mindset? As her older sister, I failed in leading her by example. There were plenty of times when I was slightly younger, less sure of myself, and far more self-conscious than I am now, that I would look in the mirror and say that I looked too chubby, that my body didn't look good enough, that I wished I could change the size of my legs or stomach.

My little sister had to see the older sibling she looks up to, the big sis she thinks always looks beautiful, say awful and untrue things about herself because her own sense of body image was warped by media, puberty, and comparing herself to others.

My negativity rubbed off onto her and shaped how she looks at herself. I can just imagine her watching me fret over how I look thinking, "If she thinks she's too big, what does that make me?"

It makes me feel sick.

All of us are dealing with our own insecurities. It takes some of us longer than others to view ourselves in a positive, loving light. We're all working on ourselves every day, whether it be mentally, physically, or emotionally. But our own baggage shouldn't be shoved on to those we surround ourselves with, our struggles and insecurities should not form into their own burdens.

Work on yourself in private. Speak kindly of yourself in front of others. Let your positivity, real or not, spread to others instead of the bad feelings we have a bad habit of letting loose.

The little girls of the world don't need your or my negative self-image this summer. Another kid doesn't need to feel worthless because we couldn't be a little more loving to ourselves and a lot more conscious of what we say out loud.

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Stand In The Mirror

An exercise in self-love.


If you're reading this, then I want you to stop what you're doing right now, get up from wherever you're sitting, and go stand in the mirror.

Yes, that's right. Close your laptops, put down your phones, and walk to the closest bathroom, or vanity, or wherever else you can see your reflection the most clearly. Pretend like you're the only person in the world for a little while.

Are you there? Good.

Now I want you to look at yourself, very closely.

Start with your eyes. How beautiful they look underneath the light; you can see all their colors, just like a painting! Something that unique belongs in an art museum, don't you think?

Those eyes of yours have seen so many wonderful things. Think of all the sunsets they've allowed you to witness, all the times your best friends have grinned from ear-to-ear and all the books you've read.

Now, look at your lips. Think of all the lovely people they may have kissed, all the Thanksgiving dinners they've touched and all the funny faces they've helped you express.

Think all of the times they've opened to exude laughter and joy, to express awe and other associated feelings words cannot express.

Now it's time to examine your arms. Shrug your shoulders and admire the way they fall so gently at your sides, like water flowing from the mouth of a river. Think of all the wonderful things they've helped you to reach, of all the trees they've helped you climb and monkey bars they've helped you swing through. Think of all the people they've hugged, and all the dogs they've helped you pet.

Finally, move to your legs. Think of all the races they've helped you win, all the hurdles they've helped you jump through and all the lengths they've helped you swim.

Think of all the pristine places they've carried you to, and reflect upon all the places you'll soon be heading to.

Can't you see now that you're a masterpiece, dripping with color and beauty, emotion and experience, from every fiber of your being?

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