In Response To "You'll Never Be Famous – And That's OK"

In Response To "You'll Never Be Famous – And That's OK"

How could I seek my dreams and see my world differently?

A few weeks ago, I read a New York Times article with an intriguing title: “You’ll Never Be Famous — And That’s O.K.” The author, Emily Esfahani Smith argues that young people desire to become famous and do big things, yet most dreams will not be fulfilled. She says, “The most meaningful lives, I’ve learned, are often not the extraordinary ones. They’re the ordinary ones lived with dignity.”

Smith uses the example of George Eliot’s 700-page-novel, Middlemarch, which focuses on two ambitious characters who want to create epic lives, but those aspirations are eventually dashed away to make her point. In closing, Eliot writes of one of the characters: “But the effect of her being on those around her was incalculably diffusive: for the growing good of the world is partly dependent on unhistoric acts; and that things are not so ill with you and me as they might have been is half owing to the number who lived faithfully a hidden life, and rest in unvisited tombs.”

Ever since I was young, I wanted to make a lot of money and become famous while doing so. I initially wanted to become an actress, enamored by the glamour and the wealth it may bring. It wasn’t until we did some filming and I had to watch myself and listen to my own voice when those dreams faded away; I didn’t feel comfortable confronting myself on the screen. Even though I did drama productions and found myself comfortable enough to ask questions in assembly and make speeches, those dreams never rose from the concrete again.

On the other hand, I still dream of becoming an author: I started writing poetry in my later elementary school days and started a story, which would later become a novel that has yet to be published. In addition to some poetry publications in school literary magazines, I developed new ideas, still in the nascent stages in sheets of paper and notecards in my room, and wrote short stories for my creative writing class in high school. A persistent flame, it is also paralyzed because I wanted to write what I believed was my best work and would become famous, but if I started writing, I feared that I may be wrong.

So, when I read Smith’s article, I think about the people who live quiet lives and find happiness in myriads of forms—my family members, who work hard to push their children to a brighter future; my friends, who volunteer and research and work so hard on many crafts that I believe they would become famous one day; and other mentors whom I share conversations with. I’m inspired, enlightened, and driven to create more and give something more positive for such a crazy world we live in.

Overall, I liked Smith’s article for its message, but I would like to ask if she had any advice for those who still seek fame and recognition for what they do. My opinion would be that one must continue to refine one’s craft in the little corners of the night. I do not like fame without anything to show for it, but I don’t want to traverse through life as a troubadour for my age, without anybody to listen. Ultimately, I might have to go offline and look around at the people I may have impacted.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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Working summers doesn't have to be tedious.


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I got really lucky to have another intern work with me that was very similar to me. The tasks we got were always simple but they were made to be more fun because I got to do them while talking with someone else. Now I actually enjoy and look forward to going to work.

The key to finding a good job is finding one that you enjoy doing and one that will help you gain knowledge that will help you out with future career plans. Working with friends also make tasks enjoyable! I would be careful with working with your friend however because if your job needs you to be serious and focused, being around your best friends may distract you from that.

Another thing that definitely makes summer jobs more enjoyable are taking breaks! It is your summer vacation after all! I'm not saying don't take a day off just to sit around, but if you make plans with family and friends, take a Friday off and enjoy the warm weather and good company! Employers understand that us college students and on break and have lives, they are usually very lenient with days off!

If you have to do a summer job to make money to live off of or pay for college, the best thing to do is look at the big picture. If you don't enjoy your job but can't afford to quit, remember that the money if going to help you out a lot. Also, this job is probably only for the summer right? So it's not permanent my friend! Get through these annoying few weeks and you will be back at college, taking steps for a bigger and brighter future.

Summer jobs are tough, I know, but make the most of it! And don't forget to enjoy it whenever you can!!!


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