The Importance Of Sharing The Same Faith As Your Spouse

The Importance Of Sharing The Same Faith As Your Spouse

Sharing the same faith makes things easier.

Webster defines faith as a strong belief or trust in someone or something. There are a million different things to put your faith in. Your neighbor, your education, your spouse, science, other people – the list goes on. I put my faith in God and so does my husband. That might seem like a no brainer, but in reality, having something to put your faith in is so important for many different reasons. I believe that putting your faith into something gives you a solid ground to stand on.

While I do believe that having faith in something is extremely important for personal growth, I also believe that it is important to share the same faith as your spouse. That isn’t the say that two different people with two different faiths can’t have a successful life together because they can. I just think that that sharing the same faith as your spouse can help other things move along.

One reason why I think it’s important is because it affects how you work through things. When you hit a wall and have no idea what your next move is, if your spouse has the same faith as you, you’ll work through the problem easier. When my husband and I hit a problem in our lives, we take time to think about the different solutions, we pray about it and we come up with the best plan to solve the problem. It works for us because we have the same faith. If we had different faiths, it would probably take twice as long to come to an agreement on something because we would have different morals and reasonings.

Not only is sharing the same faith as your spouse important for working through your marital issues, but it’s also import when it comes to raising your kids. Kids are the most impressionable people you’re ever going to meet. If your faith is important to you and your spouse, then you should make it important for your kids as well. If you have the same faith as your partner, then some of the difficult stuff with kids aren’t going to seem so difficult. Everything from punishments and rewards to life goals and plans are going to fall in line with what you and your spouse have faith in. That helps setting your kids up for success knowing that you’re all on the same page. Sharing your faith with your kids should also help create a trusting bond so they’ll always be able to come to you for anything.

Someday, your kids aren’t going to be kids anymore. They’re eventually going to grow up, leave the house and be productive members of society. If your faith is important to you and you show them that, then your kids will go off into the world sharing their faith with other people. Some kids will expand out beyond your faith and figure out their own faith, and there is nothing wrong with that. They also might share your faith, but also find someone who has a different faith, and that’s okay too! As a parent you’d like to think that you can make every decision for your child, but as long as you share your faith with them, then there really shouldn’t be a problem…right?

When all else fails and there seems to be no light at the end of the tunnel, it’s important to fall back on your faith. If your faith falls on science, then you know the most logical answer to everything. If your faith falls back on education, then you know that you can find the answer somewhere. If your faith falls on your spouse, then you literally have to rely on your spouse to figure everything out. My faith falls on God and I share that common faith with my husband. We fall back on him every time we have issues. We pray about a lot of things. We have faith that God will help us figure our way out of things. Sharing the same faith has made everything else seem so small.

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Nostalgic feelings have recently caused me to reflect back on my freshman year of college. No other year of my life has been filled with more ups and downs, and highs and lows, than freshman year. Throughout all of the madness, one factor remained constant: my roommate. It is time to thank her for everything. These are only a few of the many reasons to do so, and this goes for roommates everywhere.

You have been through all the college "firsts" together.

If you think about it, your roommate was there through all of your first college experiences. The first day of orientation, wishing you luck on the first days of classes, the first night out, etc. That is something that can never be changed. You will always look back and think, "I remember my first day of college with ____."

You were even each other's first real college friend.

You were even each other's first real college friend.

Months before move-in day, you were already planning out what freshman year would be like. Whether you previously knew each other, met on Facebook, or arranged to meet in person before making any decisions, you made your first real college friend during that process.

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The transition from high school to college is not easy, but somehow you made it out on the other side.

It is no secret that transitioning from high school to college is difficult. No matter how excited you were to get away from home, reality hit at some point. Although some people are better at adjusting than others, at the times when you were not, your roommate was there to listen. You helped each other out, and made it through together.

Late night talks were never more real.

Remember the first week when we stayed up talking until 2:00 a.m. every night? Late night talks will never be more real than they were freshman year. There was so much to plan for, figure out, and hope for. Your roommate talked, listened, laughed, and cried right there with you until one of you stopped responding because sleep took over.

You saw each other at your absolute lowest.

It was difficult being away from home. It hurt watching relationships end and losing touch with your hometown friends. It was stressful trying to get in the swing of college level classes. Despite all of the above, your roommate saw, listened, and strengthened you.

...but you also saw each other during your highest highs.

After seeing each other during the lows, seeing each other during the highs was such a great feeling. Getting involved on campus, making new friends, and succeeding in classes are only a few of the many ways you have watched each other grow.

There was so much time to bond before the stresses of college would later take over.

Freshman year was not "easy," but looking back on it, it was more manageable than you thought at the time. College only gets busier the more the years go on, which means less free time. Freshman year you went to lunch, dinner, the gym, class, events, and everything else possible together. You had the chance to be each other's go-to before it got tough.

No matter what, you always bounced back to being inseparable.

Phases of not talking or seeing each other because of business and stress would come and go. Even though you physically grew apart, you did not grow apart as friends. When one of you was in a funk, as soon as it was over, you bounced right back. You and your freshman roommate were inseparable.

The "remember that one time, freshman year..." stories never end.

Looking back on freshman year together is one of my favorite times. There are so many stories you have made, which at the time seemed so small, that bring the biggest laughs today. You will always have those stories to share together.

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The unspoken rule that no matter how far apart you grow, you are always there for each other.

It is sad to look back and realize everything that has changed since your freshman year days. You started college with a clean slate, and all you really had was each other. Even though you went separate ways, there is an unspoken rule that you are still always there for each other.

Your old dorm room is now filled with two freshmen trying to make it through their first year. They will never know all the memories that you made in that room, and how it used to be your home. You can only hope that they will have the relationship you had together to reflect on in the years to come.

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