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To All The Boys I've Loved Before, Why Did You Wait To Put In Effort?

I know I am enough, so why did you wait until the end to show you cared?

To All The Boys I've Loved Before, Why Did You Wait To Put In Effort?

So, here we are again.

This is another article about relationships... shocking, I know. Only this time, I am single.

Yes, another relationship has ended, unfortunately. Breakups really do suck.

I have mentioned in plenty of my past articles that all the relationships I have been in have been very healthy and helpful relationships — but love is not enough to make a relationship work.

I am not hating on my exes. They are all lovely men, but not for me.

As I go through my third breakup of the year, I am hurting a bit but am excited to begin being single for what seems like the first time.

I am ready to be alone. I'm ready to not have any obligations to anyone or feel like I have to impress anyone. I am ready to not have to worry about making plans or spending money on gifts for anniversaries or birthdays.

I am ready to live my life and spend a ton of time with my friends.

I am ready to dance with whomever I want and show the world how independent I truly am.

I am ready for boys to flirt with me and slide into my DMs, just for me to push them aside as I bask in my own self-love. I am empowered and ready to do whatever I want.

Although I am excited to begin a new chapter in my life, one thing I cannot shake is this one question that looms over me. Why did all the boys I've loved before wait?

Why has every person I have been with wait until I was gone to show me how much they loved me? Why has every boy I've loved before waited until I broke up with them to shower me with love and affection?

Why wait?

I am confident. I am kind. I am understanding.

I am a lenient girlfriend. I do not snoop. I am loyal.

I try to spend a fair amount of time with my partner. I encourage people to go after their dreams.

I am smart. I am funny. I am affectionate.

This is not an article asking why I am not enough. No, I KNOW I am enough.

So, why has everyone waited to reassure me of that? Why does it take me ending things for someone to chase me, when for so long I have felt like I have been the one chasing them?

No more.

To all the boys I've loved before, I hope you enjoy seeing me basking in my singledom and holding out for someone who doesn't wait.

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