Going into college there are so many different things that I learned about different cultures, relationships and people. I was never the kind of person that devoted herself and most of her time to one specific group of friends. What I learned from that particular way of life is that even though it might feel great to know more people and connect with them on some level, you can feel super lonely when you are not included in gatherings and events that call for the closest friends. When I entered college, I realized that because of the sheer number of people there is no way I could create a network that big and I found myself starting to get drawn to a specific type of people and group of friends. The thing everyone should know is that having a group of friends with unique and different people in it can shape you in ways you never thought it could.
When you have a unique friend group filled with people who are varied in culture, personality, and gender, the conversations you have will be some of the most stimulating discussions you will ever experience. When talking about controversial issues, you can start to see each person's priorities and how they differ from yours. You also get to see a piece of each person be represented in the things they say and the thoughts they express. Use this as a learning experience and allow these experiences help you grow.
However, you all should know that having a unique friend group is not all rainbows, glitter, and happiness. There will be disagreement and conflicts because that is what naturally happens when people who are so different in so many ways are put together in a group. These conflicts and disagreements can be really easy to hide and run away from, but what you do not know is that these conflicts are what makes your group stronger. The ability to work things out with other people from different backgrounds is a skill that you will find handy later on in your life, albeit in your future friendships, work environment and relationships.
One thing you can definitely count on when it comes to unique friend group is that it is never boring. You are constantly learning something new. It can be things that are as random as the fact that Japan is the most perverted country in the world, or that there is the same amount of people who were born with ginger hair as the people who were born with two genitals. Yes, all these things have been brought up in the past in my friend group, which may or may not be appropriate, but the point here is that you live and you learn.
Having a unique friend group can definitely put a little more spice in your life. Sometimes the spice can be a perfect blend and other times it can be unbearable but when the heat does settle you may find yourself completely contented with the steak you just had. As I am writing this my friends have been grilling some steaks as we are having an outdoor barbecue, the fact that I am hungry should explain the slightly forced food analogy. There is a group people for every person out there and no one person is meant to go through life alone.
