I once had an ex-friend tell me that I was immature to delete her off social media. I told her that since we were not close anymore, I did not want to see her on my social media. People have made me feel bad about deleting them of social media because it is "Immature." To be honest though I do not find it immature. Social media for me is suppose to be a place for me express myself and view things I want to see. Why would I want to see my ex-friend with all of her other friends? To remind me of how we had our fallout? To remind me that were not friends anymore? So yes, I delete you if were not friends anymore because quite honestly, I do not give a crap what you are up to.
Not only does seeing my ex-friends and even people I have dated anger me but it bothers me. Why do I want to see the person who I went on a few dates with (where I thought we were actually going to be a thing) with his new girlfriend on Facebook after he figured out I was not the one? I DON'T.
Seeing people who I dislike and people who I am not close with anymore on social media really makes it upsetting for me. If you tell me that you do not want to be friends in person anymore but will keep me as a social media friend, no thank you. Honestly, I find that extremely odd. So you are telling me I can not communicate with you in real human form but you can see what my life is all about on Facebook? No. Not for me. I do not want to see what you have been dong in school, where you traveled with your friends, because you are no longer a part of my life anymore.
It may sound strange but I also get constant anxiety seeing an ex-friend on social media. It makes me sad that he/she seemed to move on so easily while I sit here still thinking about the friendship we used to have. So yes, I will block you. Not because I am immature, but because seeing your life all over my Instagram triggers sad emotions for me which I just can not handle.
It also drives me nuts and this may sound pathetic for sure, but I sometimes have to make sure your are still my friend on Facebook and Snapchat just to see if we will somewhat communicate again if you told me we are not friends anymore. I do it because I want to see if the friendship is truly over. That is why I will also block you, so I do not have to constantly be tortured by making sure we are still social media friends even though were not friends in "Real life." So I just do it myself and rip the inner pain off like a bandage, and hit the unfriend button.
I am 100% sure that people have unfriended me and blocked me on social media and you know what? it is fine. They have the right too. Whatever people want to do on social media is their business. Just make sure you do not drive yourself nuts figuring out why someone would unfriend you. Honestly, who cares. If it bothers you that much because you thought that someone was important, maybe it was for the best. Easier said than done but it will get better.
I want to be able to go on my Facebook without getting upset. I want to be able to go on Instagram without seeing my ex-best friend. I want to be able to go on Snapchat and not see someone I used to date making out with someone else. When you go on social media, it should be a fun thing and you should be able to see who you want to see. Yes, it hurts sometimes having to click the unfriend button on someone you used to be so close with. In the long run though, it will help you let go to focus on people who want to be in your life.
It amazes me to this day how much social media has an impact on us and our lives and I do find it harmful as well. People will base their relationships on how many "Likes" they get from someone, which is not healthy. However I do know a good friend would give you those likes, so I guess in some weird way it kind of tells you at times who your real friends are.
Yes, I will delete you if you choose not to be in my life anymore because truthfully, I do not give a sh*t what you are up to. If you do not want to be in my life for "Real" than no thanks, I do not want you on my social media. I want to be in peace.
