I'm Thankful For My Second Family, My Sorority

I'm Thankful For My Second Family, My Sorority

Joining a sorority gave me 60+ new sisters in one day
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Once you go away to college you move onto your own life, away from family. For some this is the best thing about college, for others, we miss our family a lot and it’s hard going so long without seeing them. The easy way to fix this problem is to create our own new family.

Sisterhood is a bond like no other

Joining a sorority gave me 60+ new sisters in one day. While it was overwhelming at first, I eventually got to know everyone and now I can’t imagine having so many amazing women in my life. A lot of people think it’s weird how close sorority girls can be, there’s a stereotype that we’re either too close or we all hate each other but I can speak for a lot of people when I say there’s not a single person in my chapter who I hate.

The amount of times I see my sisters can seem like an overload for one week but it’s that way because I choose for it to be that way. Yes, I want to sit and talk to my sisters throughout our entire chapter meeting, yes, I want to spend the rest of my night in the library with them not getting any work done and yes, I want to go on dinner dates with them and spend any minute I can with them.

There’s a sister for everything

When I say there’s always a sister nearby, there’s always a sister nearby. I go to a school of over 22,000 students and I see different faces pass by every day but I always seem to find a sister in the crowd. The best is walking from an exam I know I didn’t do too well on and seeing a smiling sister's face, or when I don’t want to go to the gym or the library and there’s a sister to encourage me to go with them.

The nice thing about studying with sisters is that every one of us has different skills and do better in certain subjects, so If I need a math tutor, I have one right there for me. Or if I don’t know what classes to take or with what professor, I have millions of suggestions from my sisters. And when it comes to finding the perfect outfit, let me tell you do I have options. Most sisters open up their closets for any occasion and I am set.

The big and little process is a full-on family builder

Regardless of how close anyone is with their sisters or not there’s always those certain people who you will call your own family, your big, little and grand big. Getting a big is such an exciting thing when you’re new to the sorority because you’re paired with one person who will help you with anything you need, who you can ask anything about and who will most likely be one of your first and closest friends.

For me, I got lucky because my big was friends with all of my new member friend’s bigs so we created our own family off the bat. Just one year into the sorority and I was able to take a little which is such a cool opportunity to be someone’s mentor in the sorority. She even calls me mom and I call my big mom because everyone needs a mom when their mom’s not around.

Everyone shares the same values like a family

No, not all sorority girls are the same, we just share a lot of the same interests, values and spend a lot of time together. Our interests and values are so much more than girls hanging out with their friends. We all love to support our philanthropy and other charities in the community, it’s a great way to get others involved and to give back to our community.

We also participate in events on campus and with other organizations to share our interest with Greek life and our community in general. It’s important to remember no matter how different the girls are in our organization, we all share so much together and are proud that our sorority brought us to be a family.

Cover Image Credit: Sierra Gardner

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The Thank You My Dad Deserves

While our moms are always the heroes, our dads deserve some credit, too.
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Dear Dad,

You’ve gone a really long time without being thanked. I'm not talking about thanks for things like opening the Gatorade bottle I couldn't or checking my tires when my car’s maintenance light is flashing, but rather the thanks I owe you for shaping me into the person I am today.

Thank you for teaching me what I deserve and for not letting me settle for anything less.

While the whole world was telling me I wasn’t good enough, you were there to tell me I was. Whether this was with boys, a friend, or anything else, you always built my confidence to a place I couldn’t build it to on my own. You showed me what my great qualities were and helped me feel unique. But most of all, you never let me settle for anything less than what I deserved, even when I wanted to. Without you, I wouldn’t be nearly as ambitious, outgoing or strong.

Thank you for giving me someone to make proud.

It’s hard to work hard when it’s just for myself, but so easy when it’s for you. All through school, nothing made me happier than getting a good grade back because I knew I got to come home and tell you. With everything I do, you give me a purpose.

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Thank you for showing me what selflessness looks like.

You are the prime example of what putting your family first looks like. If me wanting something means that you can’t get what you want, you’ll always sacrifice. From wearing the same t-shirts you’ve had since I was in elementary school so I could buy the new clothes I wanted, to not going out with your friends so you could come to my shows, you never made a decision without your family at the forefront of your mind. If there is one quality you have that I look up to you for the most, it’s your ability to completely put your needs aside and focus entirely on the wants of others.

Thank you for being the voice in the back of my head that shows me wrong from right.

Even though many of your dad-isms like “always wear a seatbelt” easily get old, whenever I’m in a situation and can’t decide if what I’m doing is right or wrong, I always can hear you in the back of my head pointing me in the right direction. While I may not boost your ego often enough by telling you you’re always right, you are.

Thank you for being real with me when nobody else will.

Being your child hasn’t always been full of happiness and encouragement, but that’s what makes you such an integral part of my life. Rather than sugarcoating things and always telling me I was the perfect child, you called me out when I was wrong. But what separates you from other dads is that instead of just knocking me down, you helped me improve. You helped me figure out my faults and stood by me every step of the way as I worked to fix them.

Most of all, thank you for showing me what a great man looks like.

I know that marriage may seem very far down the road, but I just want you to know that whoever the guy I marry is, I know he’ll be right because I have an amazing guy to compare him to. I know you’re not perfect (nobody is), but you’ve raised me in a such a way that I couldn’t imagine my kids being raised any differently. Finding a guy with your heart, drive, and generosity will be tough, but I know it will be worth it.


Dad, you’re more than just my parent, but my best friend. You’re there for me like nobody else is and I couldn’t imagine being where I am now without you.

Love you forever,

Your little girl

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The Secret To Valuable Friendships

"You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with."

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As the years have gone by, I've made some important realizations about the people I keep close to me. The process of finding "your people" is an extensive one. It takes many different types of friendships, people, and situations to educate yourself on what type of people you need to keep in your life. In elementary school, my friends were the people that were generally nice to me. In middle school, they were the people I shared interests with. In high school, they were all these things plus a personality compatibility. However, in college, friendships became much more serious to me.

In college, life gets pretty real. You discover your true passions and learn more about your true self. Through all of this, you might realize that the people you keep close to you are more than shared interests or personality.

Jim Rohn has a famous quote that reads, "you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with." And although the extent of this can be debated, I believe there is truth in the magnitude of the influence of your five closest people. Your five closest people can inspire you, lift you up, and cherish you. Or, your five closest people can ruin you, bring you down, or dishonor you.

Be on guard against toxic relationships. If someone is detracting value from your life with digging remarks, manipulation, or judgement, consider how close you keep them in your circle. You don't need to cut a person completely out of your life to move them further from you. Be picky with your five closest people, then it doesn't matter as much who the others are.

If you have at least a handful of people that you can go to with anything and trust their judgement and opinion, then you are well off. Everyone deserves to have a solid team of five that they can trust. Life isn't meant to be lived alone. We are designed for community and deep relationships with other people.

Take care of your people. Just as you should trust them, they should trust you to be there in not only the easy times, but the hard ones as well. Life can be unforgiving and living through it is made worse when the people around you can't spot you drowning. Be a good person to your people. Treat them how you are deserved to be treated as well.

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